SIL and MIL took the baby for the night last weekend (they live together... but they each have their own place... I don't get it. MIL is on section 8 and is always at SIL's house for days on end.) and we went to pick the baby up.
The baby was fine.
I was in the car, window up, air blasting, couldn't hear much. Well, SO got out of the car to grab the baby and they all came outside and apparently when he was inside his 9yo niece asked how I was (I'm supposed to magically know this). They came outside and SO packed the baby into the van.
When we pulled off, he was mad I didn't get out and do jumping jacks and talk, or something.
Sorry, you tell me all the time how much shit they talk about me and I know SIL doesn't like me because she WALKED ALL UP THROUGH MY HOUSE WHILE YOU WEREN'T HERE AND WENT INTO EVERY ROOM AND LOOKED AT MY KIDS WHILE THEY WERE SLEEPING AND I FELT VIOLATED. THEN SAT AT MY TABLE AND WENT THROUGH MY MAIL WITHOUT LOOKING AT ME EVEN ONE TIME AND IGNORNING EVERYTHING I SAID TO HER.
Call it what you want, but I'm just not ready to talk to them yet after what they did to me. The 9yo niece didn't say anything to me outside nor did anyone wave or anything, so I assumed we were all on the same page and I didn't want a confrontation.
Whatever. He can be mad. I'm not going to go out of my way to prove myself to these people who clearly don't like me and I wouldn't expect SO to do that for my mother, either. My mother welcomes him with open arms, though.
ETA: SO said "don't make me choose between you and my family" so I said "well fucking defend me when I'm disrespected because I'm not going anywhere and neither is your family. there is no choosing."
Bump bump bump huh?
He SHOULD choose his family... YOU. You're not making him choose, if they're being that way to you THEY are making him choose and he SHOULD be holding them accountable for their crappy behavior. I'm sorry that he isn't manning up and doing his job.
right, they took the baby because SO wanted them to. i had nothing to do with it. i'm not saying i was 100% right, but he's mad at me when they ignored ME, too... kwim?
Quoting EAzizM:
It is just manners to get off and say hello no matter what they do or say about you. I mean, they took your baby for a night...saying hello is the least you could do.
At what age should I tell my son dh is not his bio dad?