See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
Knows what? That taking care of her for the past 14 years has worn me beyond down. :*( She has emotional and mental disabilities, but she is still functional- most of the time. She has outbursts, spaces out mentally, can't follow directions (but sometimes she can), and doesn't pay attention.
The saddest part is that she IS capable of doing it. I know she has her really bad times and I help her through them, but when she is just choosing to be lazy and not try I just can't take it anymore.
Here's a few examples of things she USED to do ALL ON HER OWN:
She is capable of showering herself, yet will go a week without doing it because she doesn't "mind" being dirty.
She will sleep in and then re-wear the same clothes for 3-4 days, yet can dress herself and follow a simple routine.
She will leave food and garbage everywhere and just cover it up with whatever is around.
She has become the laziest kid ever and every time I or her workers try to help her past this or through it she reacts like we are shouting her, hitting her, or abusing her.
Let me make this clear - she has NEVER been abused EVER.
She used to be a brick and mortar school kid, but now she is cyber-schooled and NO this didn't start when she started cyber-school, it started before.
She will have such good, good days- be back to the kid she was (her with her the issues she always had), but then the rest of the time she turns into a mindless zombie who won't even wipe herself after peeing, or flushing, or flushing poo, or washing her hands, or showering, or changing her clothes, or anything else she USED to do that are the BASICS she was ALWAYS capable of.
I can't take it any more. I used to be so happy to help her and watch her trying to work through her issues, but she has given up. She has even said she has given up.
She is going to wind up in a home when she is legal age and the thought scares the crap out of me and angers me so much because she is fighting doing even the simplist things she used to do. I hate her like this. I really do.
And yes, she is in therapy- has been for years and no it isn't the same one and the therapy is home-based and so there has never been any abuse there.
This is all her choice, she's even told everyone that. She said she wants to "embrace her disabilities".
I tell her there is a difference between embracing who she is and what she faces and giving up.
I love my daughter so much, I jsut want her to f-ing try.
OK, thanks for letting me get that out. Time to go and bawl.