What did you do AFTER he cheated?
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If you forgave him and stayed, did it happen again? If not, how do you know?
If you left, do you regret it? Did you move on? What is the relationship like now.. (if you had kids)?
Quoting smurfbitebug:
Your reasoning is backwards. Your husband is supposed to be the "forever" one. Your loyalties are misplaced. Don't question others who have their priorities straight.
Quoting RaynesMommy07:Guess I just see it differently. I can't ever forgive a man for cheating on me, its the ultimate betrayal and just couldn't stay. My friends though...are forever.
Quoting HadnKmom:i can tell you from experience you either forgive the man or you forgive the friend...not both. i was with my ex he cheated with my 'best friends' (they were sisters and they had a threesome). i forgave him after about a month and after a year i forgave her too. (it took time the fact that she had gone through it really bugged me). not even amonth after i had dd they fucked in MY home on MY bed. my ex and i were living together but i paid ALL the bills.
your man...either he will do it again or he wont...a bitch? she didnt care enough the first time why would she the next? this woman made a commitment to her husband NOT her friend. yes bother her friend and dh betrayed her but i get where she is coming from.
Quoting RaynesMommy07:You let go of a 10 year relationship over a douchebag that cheats. Glad you guys are doing better.
Quoting Anonymous:Honestly, it's not for you to get. He made a commitment yes, and even though he broke that, I still made a commitment to him. I honestly feel no need to justify my decision.
Our marriage is better now that ever, he has turned in to an amazing husband, has always been an amazing husband, and I am glad I stuck around.
Quoting RaynesMommy07:He made a commitment to you and your family and broke that commitment. So, he gets a pass and we'll work it out. He was your "husband" and that didn't seem to matter. I just don't get things like this. Ditch your "friend" that has made no promises to you or stood in front of God and everyone an promised to be faithful, but keep the "husband" that made you out to be a fool. I don't get that logic. At all.
Quoting Anonymous:No, I did not. I had committed myself to my husband and our family, and I thought it best to at least try to work through everything. I had no such connection to my "friend".
Quoting RaynesMommy07:Did you give your friend that same second chance?
Quoting Anonymous:My DH cheated on me almost 5 years ago. I found out about it almost a year after it happened. He cheated on me with my best friend of 10+ years, who happened to be married to his best friend.
I found out right after our DD was born. I was devestated, hurt, but had always suspected something had happened between the two of them, so I wasn't really surprised.
I stayed. I am a stay at home mom, at the time I had a three year old, and a newborn. I didn't know how I would leave and support both of my children.
Now, five years later, we are still together, and actually happier in our marriage than ever before. He knows that he almost lost his family due to his stupid actions, and I have full faith that he will not cheat again.
It was very hard to get over the trust issues, and I still haven't completely, but he understands why that is, and does everything in his power to show me that I can trust him.
leaving baby alone while i do laundry?