so... my period is late a little... and I've been wanting a baby since day we got married... BUT I started not wanting baby right away for about month now... since DH and I've been having tons of disagreement, I thought in-case something goes wrong it probably will be better with out a baby.... and now my period is late... I did take a test but negative so if it doesn't come by next Wed I'll take another....
thing ia I told my DH if I do get prego we shouldn't have sex for first trimester (right???) since baby won't be stable... he asked why so I told him it increase chance of miscarige... and you know what my DH said???! He's like "then we should just fuck untill it's gone huh?" and I'm like "what???" .... I told him I will not do that if I am with my child. then he told me I'm being selfish bitch.... he's like "its not baby yet just blah mini atoms and what not" but he knows I don't agree on that. I think them as baby and that's it.
So am I being selfish???
(I'm not sure I am with child or not but I will keep posted)
Ok, so here is some more things it might help. My side of family have problem with getting pregnant and keeping baby full term. my grandma and my mom both had ovary cancer and all. and I've heard in Japan having sex in beginning of the pregnancy is high risk and all :(
So I see lots of ladies here thinks he's talking about not having a sex is selfish of me. but that's not what I'm saying. He's trying to flush the baby, rather what I heard was right or wrong he's trying to get the baby gone and I told him no, if he wants that then he could hit the road. and I'm sorry for being ignorant ladies I thought that's why it helps to bring subgect up to older people then me or more "mature" people than me? I never had pregnancy. I am young so I do not wish to be pragnant right now! but same time if I am then not planning to just "flush" my flesh and blood!!! and I'm being selfish? I've lost both of parents, one sister in Japan haven't seen in 5yrs and all I got is my DH. and coming from him that he wants me to try to miscarry? yeah it hurts. I'm sory for being emotional and all but hey thought I'll edit the post...