I joined this site in hopes to find mothers dealing with same problem. My son isnt going to college and moved out about a year ago with his buddies. He had a great job working construction and making pretty good money. His roomates parents all pay there rent and give them spending money we not only dont do this we cant afford to do this. He lost his job a month ago has moved home and is doing nothing! he sleeps all day takes my husbands car without asking.....we never know when or if hes coming home......its a mess what do I do???