Please Help Me Help My Mother

[Bananas.mommy]

my mother has a bone deteriation (sp?) desease along with being bipolar.she ran out of her meds. Except xanx. Shes been in pain but wont go to the doc or hospital.her bipolar disorder has her crying and screaming at my dh and i.shes been taking way too many xanx claiming theyre not working.last night she came banging on my door atleast five times thinking it was my Gmas room.my grandma has been dead four years now.mom also claimed to have fallen last night and bitched at me saying it was my fault.she really didnt fall.she also wanted me to cook dinner at 4:30AM.she denies it all saying im the one with problems.i need to get her help but dont know how.what are the steps i need to take.shes 55 if that helps.shes has done many more things but i dont have enough room to type it all.

[Bananas.mommy]

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[angie729]

I would call her dr and see if they can help. Why did she run out of her meds?

[HIJKLM]

You might be able to have her taken in by the police for a psychiatric hold. That seems a little extreme but I don't have any other ideas. While there they'd get her back on her meds but she might not stay on them.

[all2gethernow]

sweetie, I think you need to get her some help asap. Can you call her doctor??? This is NOT normal behavior, she needs her meds. She could easily be a danger to herself or to someone else. Please seek help immediately!

[jimi2626]

Hmmm that is really rough. Her bi-polar combined with abusing Xanax is a terrible combination. Call her doctors emergency number sorry that's all I know to do.

[PerfectVirgo]

You sound like my crazy ass cousin.

[surfgrl60]

So stop talking to her for awhile.

[JC2223]

Call her doctor and go over all this with them. They will help you get her the help she needs.

[opal10161973]

If you can't talk to he Dr, you can always call the local mental health facility for your area.  They often have outpatient services that can see her or can refer you to someone who can.  They usually have information on what to do for her, as well to minimize or react to her outbursts that may help you to deal with her. 

Usually, if she is not threatening to harm herself or others, they won't take her for a 48-72 hour emergency hold.  It depends on the severity of her symptoms.  Every state is different.  You could always call the backline to the police department for more information on what constitutes that in your area. 

Often, when someone who has been taking meds for a mental disorder stop taking them, the symptoms and behaviors will be worse than if they were never taking them, until their brain chemistry levels out.  With people who have BPD, the leveling out period is often longer or more severe symptomatically than some others disorders, due to the way their brain chemistry is before any treatment. 

I'm sorry for your family.  Having a person with BPD in your family is very difficult sometimes.  

If you fear for your safety, please call the police if you have no other recourse.  Consider it a last resort, if necessary.