Ex dh is going to be homeless soon

[Anonymous]

He got fired at the end of May for attendance and always being late. He still hasn't found a new job. He was banking on unemployment and he got denied. He's been applying, but he won't go to the places that he knows will hire him, ie mcdonalds etc. Hes a month behind on rent, going to be two months here soon.

A little history of us.. we dated for four years, were married for almost three. Two months into our marriage I caught him cheating with his ex gf. By the time I found out I was pregnant and felt trapped. After dd was born he became very emotionally abusive and just started treating me like shit. Finally last year I moved out and we divorced. After I moved out I realized he had been cheating on me since day 1, for seven ywars! We get along now. He has apologized for everything he did to me and says I deserve someone much better than him. But part of me just still hates him. I don't even want to see him anymore, but we have dd so I put up with him.

Here's the big question? If he gets evicted should I let him stay on my couch? I really don't want him here. But he doesn't have any family close by. I wouldn't feel right letting him live in his car. I'm just not sure what to do.

[my3littleboys]

If you do
....give him a timeline and a contract

[sugarbaby0610]

I wouldn't. He was playing russian roulette with his job and he lost. He should face the consequences of his actions. Don't be his saftey net hun

[baby2zacharias]

Don't let him stay on your couch. That's asking for problems

[JerseyAirGurl]

I wouldn't. It's not your responsibility... He is grown and knows he needs to step up. If you feel like you dont want him there then stick with that gut feeling.

[1L2CMommy]

Ummm...no! Time to stop being his doormat entirely. I get you have a kid together, but everything you described is his doing not some weird twist of fate or accident. Time for him to grow up and figure it out without using you. I guarantee he will. They always do.

[nena61978]

He is an adult, you are not his mother to save him each time if you help him now he will expect you to save him each and every time he gets into a bind. If he moves in your might have a problem getting rid of him.

[Anonymous]

Nope. You divorced him. He's not your responsibility. He was the dumbass so he needs to own up to it.

[MisfitInTN]

Nope. I wouldn't

[tth328]

Agree. And he's an adult who made adult choices so now he need to face the consequences.

Quoting sugarbaby0610:

I wouldn't. He was playing russian roulette with his job and he lost. He should face the consequences of his actions. Don't be his saftey net hun

[Anonymous]

Even if you guys did get along fairly well, it's still an akward situation, and can cause a world of problems. I wouldn't let him do it. He needs to figure things out on his own. Maybe a couple of days of living in his car will prompt him to apply at the places he knows will hire him.