In your eyes, does it seem that we are doing the responsible thing? *update

[Anonymous]

My SO and I have been living paycheck to paycheck. Some times we have a little more money in some months. We are 19 & 21 yrs old with a one yr old boy. The only one in PA is my son, so he gets wic and Medicaid. My SO works full time on salary and goes to school 3x's a week at night. I am a stay at home mother, but not by choice... I have tried to work in places walking distance because we only have one car. The only way I have been making money is by babysitting for friends, and selling things that my son lightly used....

Now this is where I want your opinion:
My SO and I are moving into a close friends of ours town home. If we move in with them they will help us by trying to start saving money so we can earn for a second car so I can go to work and back to school. Also we can help them wen we pay rent (like $300) for their bills.

Does this seem responsible of us, like we are trying to move forward or taking 2 steps back??







* just a clear warning, do not bring my son into this he had no saying, I was raped and still kept my baby... So don't say anything like "if you kept your legs closed, you wouldn't be struggling." You don't know my whole story so do not assume things!



** for those of you being very supporting and giving advice, I thank you all! I know it will be hard but it's something my SO and I need to do. I will keep everything in mind and hopefully everything works out for the best. For that one other lady, I'm sorry you feel that way about my choices, but in my heart I feel that I am doing what is best for me and my son!

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

BUMP!

[Anonymous]

If you're doing something to save money then yes I'd say you're moving forward. Or at least taking the right steps.

I would feel like I was moving backward if I moved in with anyone though. But I've lived alone since I was 18. I guess it all depends.

[bmw29]

Most young families struggle when they're first starting out. Just know that most of the time if you move in with another couple the friendship won't last. I've never actually seen that end with an intact friendship.

[catrig]

As long as it is a safe environment.

[starry_dreamer]

I think its ok if it'll help you move ahead. Just keep that baby safe and healthy. :) sounds like you're a good mommy.

[ff-princess]

while I think it's commendable that you're attempting to find a solution to your long term problems, I don't think moving in with a friend is the way to do it.  even though you're sure right now that nothing could happen to sour this living situation, there are just too many things that could come up where you might be without a roof over your head and a lost friendship.

also, it's very, very difficult to live with someone else and have the privacy you need, as well as not feeling like you're walking on eggshells over kitchen privileges, your child crying in the middle of the night, constantly being in a complete state of dress in all public areas, inability to have spontaneous sex on the kitchen table after your child's asleep...

I think you should continue to babysit, maybe add another child if you can manage it, and sock all that money aside.  within a year you should be able to have enough for a decent used car, and you will still have your sanity instead of being completely loco from having to live with someone else. 

[CrazyLife1996]

As long as you are taking the steps to move forward then you are being responsible.

Just a little FYI Your expenses make sure you have a written agreement on how much you are responsible for.

[Gardeningmom4]

I defiantly consider it moving forward.It will help both of you get ahead and save money.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Quoting starry_dreamer:

I think its ok if it'll help you move ahead. Just keep that baby safe and healthy. :) sounds like you're a good mommy.

Thank you!

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Quoting Anonymous:

If you're doing something to save money then yes I'd say you're moving forward. Or at least taking the right steps.

I would feel like I was moving backward if I moved in with anyone though. But I've lived alone since I was 18. I guess it all depends.

we have been living on our own for about a yr. but it's a struggle....