Im not sure how to tittle this post but help and oppinions are greatly welcomed !

[mommy2be0812]

BACK STORY.... I found out December 29th that I was pregnant by my ex whom I was with for a year prior. I told him I was pregnant and he was happy at first so we "tried" to work things out for the baby. Not long after he let it out he wanted me to abort becauae he already had a 3yr old daughter and was not financialy stable. I refused and in following days found out he was talking to another woman. I got fed up with being treated like crap so I left. I kept intouch with him untill the end of February with doctors appointments he never attended and test results. I gave up all effort when I asked for my furniture back and he refused so him and his new girlfriend and her kids could live up on it. I decided that I didnt need the constant arguing and stress so I changed my number and blocked him and his friends from facebook. I met my now fiance in march. He knew I was already pregnant and was fine with it. He has stood by my side through everything. Has been to each and every doctors appointment. Was in the hospital by my side when I was hospitalized do to complications. Has helped me get everything my son needs. And has taken on the full resposability of wanting to be the father of my child both legaly and emotionaly. He asked months ago if he could sign the birth certificate but I needed time to think about it. I made my decision that he would sign it and my son would have his last name. I have not hurd from my sons BF at all during this time. Wednesday his girlfriend contacted me via email asking how I was doing and blah blah blah. I just simply told her to never contact me again. I guess my question is ... With my fiance signing the birth certificate when my son is born doesnt that give him all legal rights as the father leaving my ex with no rights unless he takes me to court to prove my son is his? And also can I get in trouble for allowing my fiance to sign the birth certificate knowing he is not.the bio father?

[ta2dirishlass]

If your ex wants to fight it, he can, but your fiancé can sign the BC if he wants. I don't know that he would get in any trouble. I would recommend checking in your state though, some states handle it differently.

[Kyka]

I don't think so. If u think he is the one go for it. You have a right to be happy so does your baby.

[hollinicole]

 I know in GA who ever you are married to will get the rights to the child his or not. Now also my sister let her now husband go back and be put on her DD birth papers, he is not bio dad, and has not had any problems. If bio is to ever come back he would have to go to court and say that child is mine, I want to support her, have DNA done and then start child support and work on from there.

[Lunarprancer]

Sheesh, petty ladies.

I don't think it could be proven that you were sure who the father was.... States like when someone claims responsibility and takes it on.

[surromama]

My friend was in the same type situation. Her new man signed the birth certificate taking full responsibility. They later married, then divorced. He is now financially responsible until she is 18. She doesn't have contact with bio Dad. The new guy had all the legal rights. She never got in trouble. I don't think you'd get in trouble for that. I suppose the birth father could fight it someday if he wanted.

[Jamie1972]

Ur fiance can sign the birth certificate. But if bio dad wants to exert his rights then he can take u to court for dna test and then the whole custody,visitation and cs syuff will happen. Dont think u get into too much trouble u could call a family lawyer and ask.

[mommy2be0812]

Wow really the only thing you can get out of that is a spelling error? Real mature.

Quoting Anonymous:

It's heard

Not hurd

[Anonymous]

I have a similar situation, pregnant by ex met a new man that wanted to be daddy. In my case though, my ex was abusive so I didn't give him any info at all, I took off and stayed off the grid. When DS was born new man and I hadn't been together long so I left dad blank on the birth certificate.

Fwd to my son about to start school. DH and I made the decision to add DH to the birth certificate and change DS's last name. The form we filled out to do so clearly states that if we were falsifying info it's a Class E misdemeanor punishable by 6 mos jail or $5000 fine. We decided to do it anyway.

Hence my anonymous post.

[MommyOfOnee]

My sister went through the sane situation. I researched it and yes you can get in trouble, but I'm going to tell you what I told her: TELL THE BIO FATHER! You need to let him know your plans and tell him that this is an out for him. He deserves to know. In my sisters case the Bio dad wad abusive but in your case I believe it's wrong not to tell him. Yah he might have been a jerk to you but that gives you no right to try to take his rights because you don't like the guy.

[Anonymous]

A dictionary would help.