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Loving your kids too much?

Posted by on Aug. 18, 2012 at 11:59 PM
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My 9 month old daughter has been sick the past 3 days. She has a low fever and doesn't seem to want to be alone in her crib at night. I work third shift and the last 2 nights I spent holding her in my arms. Well tonight she's still sick but I think I could get her to snuggle with daddy so I can work, but I stayed home instead! I feel bad about not going, but I'd feel worse about not making sure she's all better first. I know I'm a good mom, but sometimes I feel like other parents don't put there kids first like I do. 

Would you have left or stayed?

Edit: This was just a vent I'm not saying that someone who leaves is less of a mom. I was trying to say that sometimes I feel like I care too much and put them first too much. Don't take offence to my feelings please!

by on Aug. 18, 2012 at 11:59 PM
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momo3fgr8tteens
by Ruby Member on Aug. 19, 2012 at 12:01 AM
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Stayed if possible. It is part of being a mom, especially when they are little like that. 

3kidz123
by on Aug. 19, 2012 at 12:04 AM

Thank you, I feel better knowing someone else would have stayed too!!!

Quoting momo3fgr8tteens:

Stayed if possible. It is part of being a mom, especially when they are little like that. 


3babiesofmyown
by on Aug. 19, 2012 at 12:05 AM
If I could keep my job and stay home I would. DH is not working at the moment so I usually really need to be here. But I've called in plenty of nights to stay home with my sick babies.
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momo3fgr8tteens
by Ruby Member on Aug. 19, 2012 at 12:06 AM

I hope she feels better. It is hard when our babies are sick, even at 12 it is hard when my baby gets sick. I am glad you could be with her. 

Quoting 3kidz123:

Thank you, I feel better knowing someone else would have stayed too!!!

Quoting momo3fgr8tteens:

Stayed if possible. It is part of being a mom, especially when they are little like that. 



rissamom224
by Gold Member on Aug. 19, 2012 at 12:06 AM
Some people may not be able to cause of bills and living paycheck to pay check if I was able to Id stay of course Id even play it off as me being sick to my boss.. i hope baby feels better soon.
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3kidz123
by on Aug. 19, 2012 at 12:09 AM

Thank you everyone! If she's not better on monday I'm taking her in to the doc, but for now I'm just giving her cuddles, kisses, and tylonal :)

KME445
by on Aug. 19, 2012 at 12:10 AM
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In general, it's not a choice I have to make in my current work situation.  But I would say you need to learn to do what is best for your family (whether that is staying or going) without making it a competition and judging those who would have made another choice.  Especially implying that this single choice is evidence of your greater love for your child.

Sanctimommy is not a good look on anyone.

Quoting 3kidz123:

My 9 month old daughter has been sick the past 3 days. She has a low fever and doesn't seem to want to be alone in her crib at night. I work third shift and the last 2 nights I spent holding her in my arms. Well tonight she's still sick but I think I could get her to snuggle with daddy so I can work, but I stayed home instead! I feel bad about not going, but I'd feel worse about not making sure she's all better first. I know I'm a good mom, but sometimes I feel like other parents don't put there kids first like I do. 

Would you have left or stayed?


LucyHarper
by on Aug. 19, 2012 at 12:10 AM
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I would have left, its part of being a mom to make sure they have food on their plates and a roof over their heads, can't do that if I skip work everytime they are ill when there is already someone there to care for them. By going to work, I am putting my kids first.

NoahandEliza
by on Aug. 19, 2012 at 12:13 AM
If it was because she's teething, I probably would have gone to work. If she was really sick, I would skip. It also depends on how understanding the job is.
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fairymaid23
by Bronze Member on Aug. 19, 2012 at 7:22 PM
I would have stayed
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