He disowned our daughter!! **edited to add text from original post
But to answer a few questions :
We have 2 kids. Our DD is 14 and our DS is 7. He gets our DS every other weekend. He did not ask for more time than that.
We were married for 15yrs. He decided he wasn't happy on June 4 and moved out June 5. He moved in with gf two weeks later. Our divorce was final the 2nd of this month, and he is marrying his gf next week. That is a lot for any child to take in, in only 2 1/2 months.
I am getting her into therapy. I was just waiting in it to get approved by our insurance and to get an appointment. She starts tomorrow.
Her dad has not tried to make amends. I don't know why he said that in his text. He refuses to even see our DD with out his gf there. He actually said "oh well, she has to get used to gf being around "
She isn't rude or disrespectful to him or the gf. She has cut off all contact with him. She didn't even respond to the text he sent, she just came and showed me.
I don't badmouth him or tell her my opinion but she is smart enough to see the situation for what it is.
Lastly, I am not going to force her to go. During the divorce hearing I told the judge about this situation. He said that our DD was old enough to decide if she wanted to go or not. He said neither of us could force her.
Edit--- this is the text he sent her
"look you don't want me in your life and don't want to see me, that's fine. Do not forget that I have tried to be in your life and you have rejected me very time, so I hope you have a good sucessful life. Goodbye "