hiring a babysitter

[Anonymous]

df works graves he comes home and (tries) to watch ds first thing in the morning, if ds and I had a rough night.... but he will let ds scream and scream with out picking him up. I have to come out tell him to pick him up or tell df to feed him or change his diaper... then what was the point of you watching him so I can get a little more shut eye... its a nice thought. but now my mom is suggestion to hire a babysitter if df cant help out. 

yes I do take care of my child. and if he has been up all night and I havent gotten any sleep, I am cranky. I start yelling and I am a bitch. I cant function. so that is why df offers to watch ds. but its hard, when I have to babysit the "babysitter" 

[tifbrown]

You could suck it up and learn to control your emotions? If not, hire a babysitter. I don't think it's fair to make him stay up and watch the baby after working all night. He needs sleep to be effective and alert at work.

[Anonymous]

I had 3 kids 4 and under when my DS worked nights. I was 20 when I had my 3rd. I had *** NO *** help. He worked nights and slept days. Its called being a parent. Try to keep him up a lot during the day. If you just have 1 kid that is easy. Nap when he naps. Get him in bed by 7:30. YOU GO RIGHT TO BED. No tv/internet anything! If you are really THAT tired then go to bed. No excuses. My oldest NEVER slept. He NEVER EVER napped and didnt sleep through the night until 18 months. I had DS #2 when oldest was 16 months. You want to talk tired? Even then I had NO help. You CAN function. Maybe get off your ass during the days and go for walks. I did. If your DH works nights he should be going straight to bed. Get off your ass and be a parent. I did it and I had 3 kids when I was 20!

[yayay15]

My MIL would come over some mornings and watch my oldest so I could sleep a little. It was nice.

[Anonymous]

It is your kid.  this is part of parenting.  What if your child is teething or having night terrors? This is parenting.  You surely can not expect to sleep 8 hours with any kid under 5, unless your child is a great sleeper, like mine were... some just get lucky... but you gotta suck it up and parent.

[lucky2Beeme]

How old is your son ?

[ikesmommy200]

Try to nap when the little one does and go to bed a little earlier and maybe take a walk or a hot shower to de stress during your down time. Dh works nights and we have 2 young children, one of which never sleeps through the night. I am usually out of bed when he gets home

[Josie_P]

I wouldn't have my husband watch my child if he worked all night. He needs his rest too. I guess you should hire a baby sitter. How old is your son? Can you nap when he naps?

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

he offered to watch ds since he chooses not to go to bed right away....

[bluberrypoprock]

Lol my DD will be 3 in November and she still wakes up 3-4 times during the night. But I still wake up and take care of her... even if I'm cranky.
I'm notvrubbing it in or anything, I'm saying your body gets used to it.
I have not slept longer then 5 hours each night in nearly 3 years. (First 2 years I had MAYBE 4 hours of sleep each night. I can't function on just 3 though - that's when dh gets up with her in the morning) .

But if you can afford it, get someone to help.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

ds is usually a great sleeper... the one day i dont have a nap when he does. he has a bad night :( poor guy.