Let me start off by saying that it's nothing he hides. He tells me about this woman and her problems. Also I can log into his fb and see the messages and what's being said.
He calls her "cake lady" because she makes the best, I repeat THE BEST homemade key lime cake (dh's favorite). I've tried to make it but I fuck it up every time!!! Anyways he started buying cakes from her about 4 years ago. She's just a sahm who bakes to make extra money.
Anyways apparently her dh always cheats on her and treats her like she is nothing more than a shit smear on the sidewalk. He rubs it in her face that he cheats on her and also has girls call his phone all the time. They have 3 or 4 kids together (I'm not sure) and he just started acting like this after their youngest was born (he's 15m now).
So she will message my dh talking about her husband and how she don't understand why he does the things he does. He calls her ugly and fat (which shes Not fat) She will say what a lucky woman I am because I have a great dh. She wished that she could know love like we have together...dh will respond with things like "oh that sucks..I'm sorry." "you deserve better" "go bake a man one of them cakes and you will win his heart" "I couldn't imagine doing something like that to c (me) he sounds like a huge asshole" "kick him out and change the locks"
To me sometimes it sounds like she just needs someone to talk to but it very well could be her trying to reel in my dh?? But she's really jacked up looking so idk. Do you think my dh I just being nice or should I be worried?