Its in two weeks and all I keep thinking about is how im going to have to leave my baby for so long and be so far away from him. My husband asked my sil if she would be willing to make an exception for the baby, but she said no, that we have had enough time to figure it out. I feel she is being unreasonable. She also got an attitude when we told her we wouldnt be coming to the rehearsal dinner the night before and that we wont be staying over night at the hotel shes being married at.
Also, let me add they are already legally married. They got married by a JOP earlier this year so he could become legal, he is from the UK. We were there for that, and so was the baby.
Am I wrong for being upset about this? We will still be going since it is family, I just know I will be miserable the entire time. :(
*Will get to the replys soon, but I just want to clarify it isnt MY sisters wedding, its my Sister in Law so my mom doesnt have to be there, nor was she even invited. She is the only person that is available that i trust. My sister travels for work and my brother is 20 years old and as much as I love the guy, he doesnt know his ass from a hole in ground. My mother would come and stay in a room but because of the lupus its hard to sit in the car for a long period of time so thats outta the question.
To the woman that told me to "seek help". Kiss it, lady. :-p
*Im just going to add a few things instead of trying to reply to everything. Thank you to the ladies that werent so heartless in their replys!
I do not have attachment issues. My son is 5 months old and still strictly on the boob. This will be the first time I have left him for that many hours and will be so far away from him. Surely I cannot be the other mother that has had a problem with this. If he was older I would be more okay.
I havent nagged or been pissy towards my SIL, my dh asked her to make an exception FOR the baby. She has been around my son enough to know he isnt a very fussy baby, and if he gets fussy I could just pop a boob in there and he will be okay, Everything would be covered too and unless people are staring they wont even notice. I was upset over her saying no because their family has always been ALL about family. It is her wedding, but its also her blood she doesnt want there and tbh it offends me a little. If you cant understand that, than oh well.
My mother IS the only one that I trust to watch him. I will not be picking a babysitter from the paper that I do not know to watch him. Simple as that. I will ask my brother to be there as well to help my mother out with the lifting.
I will still be going EVEN though i was already a part of the real ceremony the first time. We even had a huge bbq afterwords to celebrate their marriage.
The wedding isnt by any means extravagant, and the guest list isnt over the top huge, its mostly family. My husband is one of 5 kids, and his father is one of 9. The ONLY reason why she doesnt want kids there is because my SS didnt sit perfectly with a halo on his head when we got married. She even told us thats why they arent allowed.