He asked me how long it would take to get there again. I was confused about what weight he meant, my slimmer days or when I ballooned up on the depo shot. He wants me to gain 10 or 20 lbs because he loves the way I look now and would like me to fill out a bit more.
I'm hating this body that I'm trapped in. I'm trying desperately to adjust my daily schedule to fit in a workout routine. The more weight I gain, the more depressed I get.
Part of me wonders if I should just accept the fact that I'm bigger and just go shopping. They make really cute clothes in the plus size section. Should I just learn to live with it and make myself happy that way???
I think you should be healthy, no matter what size you are. Happiness comes knowing that you're going to be around when your kiddos get married and you can enjoy being a gramma, not in wearing cute clothes. :)
I just don't know if I have the discipline for it. I mentioned the cute clothes only because I deprive myself of new clothes until I am a smaller size. It's really wearing on me and part of me just wants to throw in the towel and shop!
Quoting 081499:I think you should be healthy, no matter what size you are. Happiness comes knowing that you're going to be around when your kiddos get married and you can enjoy being a gramma, not in wearing cute clothes. :)
I would listen to my body and do the healthiest things for it...then my body would be the way it is naturally meant to. I do and would do things like be mindful of my diet, exercise every single day, and get off any hormone-adjusting BC.
If you have to "make/force" yourself to be happy at a larger weight...it really isn't what makes you happy and WON'T make you happy. You'll just be lying to yourself.
Quoting TigOlBitties:
No I wouldn't just let the weight pack on for the hell of it or because its the easy route.
I would listen to my body and do the healthiest things for it...then my body would be the way it is naturally meant to. I do and would do things like be mindful of my diet, exercise every single day, and get off any hormone-adjusting BC.
If you have to "make/force" yourself to be happy at a larger weight...it really isn't what makes you happy and WON'T make you happy. You'll just be lying to yourself.
Quoting Anonymous:I am going troll, unless you had a SERIOUS eating disorder before having a child
What active things are fun to you? Don't think of it as exercise but more what's fun that has the benefit of being healthy and good for you.
Quoting Anonymous:
I'm making small changes now to work on me time. I don't have any hormonal birth control, my tubes have been tied for 9 years. Thanks, for the honesty.
Quoting TigOlBitties:
No I wouldn't just let the weight pack on for the hell of it or because its the easy route.
I would listen to my body and do the healthiest things for it...then my body would be the way it is naturally meant to. I do and would do things like be mindful of my diet, exercise every single day, and get off any hormone-adjusting BC.
If you have to "make/force" yourself to be happy at a larger weight...it really isn't what makes you happy and WON'T make you happy. You'll just be lying to yourself.
Quoting Anonymous:I am going troll, unless you had a SERIOUS eating disorder before having a child
I get suspicious of trollololol'ing when certain conditions are met. It is a very logical process
1. There have been several controversial, highly responded to posts on the same topic (overweight ladies)
2. There seems to be a controversial twist to the post that will get people riled up (keeping the weight because your husband wants you to despite being unhappy about it)
3. When the conclusion reached at the end of the post is way past the logical response (Should I just stay overweight and unhappy? It would be so much easier!)
It very well could be a legit post, but there are some serious flags. It is like money on a line being dragged along a busy sidewalk......someone is just waiting for an unsuspecting individual to try to snag the bill on the line.
Quoting TigOlBitties:
Why do people think EVERY post is a troll? This isn't even an issue to troll about...weight issues!? Go away.
Quoting Anonymous:I am going troll, unless you had a SERIOUS eating disorder before having a child
Quoting Anonymous:I get suspicious of trollololol'ing when certain conditions are met. It is a very logical process
1. There have been several controversial, highly responded to posts on the same topic (overweight ladies)
2. There seems to be a controversial twist to the post that will get people riled up (keeping the weight because your husband wants you to despite being unhappy about it)
3. When the conclusion reached at the end of the post is way past the logical response (Should I just stay overweight and unhappy? It would be so much easier!)It very well could be a legit post, but there are some serious flags. It is like money on a line being dragged along a busy sidewalk......someone is just waiting for an unsuspecting individual to try to snag the bill on the line.
Quoting TigOlBitties:
Why do people think EVERY post is a troll? This isn't even an issue to troll about...weight issues!? Go away.
Quoting Anonymous:I am going troll, unless you had a SERIOUS eating disorder before having a child
Being a SAHM for the past 5 yrs has made me