Is this a horrible idea that will ruin family get togethers for the rest of my life?
I'm separated pending a divorce. A very long story short, recently (3 months ago) my parents best friend's son has came back in town. We haven't seen each other for years but we have instant chemistry the last time we saw eachother we where teens. He said once the ink is dry, he wants to take me out on a date (and he wants a relationship with me). Although I'm very attracted to him, I feel like this is a horrible idea for hundreds of reasons.
Our parents are very very close. If things went wrong then family get together would be horribly awkward.
I don't want a rebound.
I don't want a relationship because the last one was a disaster
I feel like I need to take time off and focus only on me and my 2 girls- but my girls have adjusted perfectly to the changes in the last 6 months but I still feel like kids need way more time.
I don't want any guy around my kids (obviously this could be avoided but for how long?)
He has made it very clear that he wants a relationship with me.
He is hot
he makes me smile
I've known him for my whole life even though we completely lost contact for years I still know he is a good guy
He fixes everything so I'll never have to worry about a door hinge broke or my car needing something
He wants to completely spoil me. I've never had this happen before by a guy so I'm not sure if this is a pro or con.
He has never been married so no crazy ex drama, he was focused on his career which is awesome- he is very successful
He is so serious about taking me out and having a relationship with him he has already talked to his mom. For some unknown reason he seems to think I'm amazing and worth the wait as he says. He asked I give him a list of any cons (which I gave him a list of about 40) and he will fix every single one of them before the divorce is final, he plans to change 7 things a month to make me date him lol. I warned him that divorces take a long time and he said I'm worth the wait and would wait as long as I needed him to... A big one was I didn't want him around my girls or to be any sort of replacement father at all so he made a plan along the lines his step dad made with his mom when he was growing up and says he will respect every boundary I've put into place between myself, him and my STBXH.. Its just all so crazy to me and I'm very confused about what to do. I've never had anyone infatuated with me this way.