or a man's gf or fiance' to encourage the man to seek out more time and rights to his children than he had previously. Sometimes people are more willing to go after something that they need or want when they know they have somebody in their corner or when they feel like their living situation is more stable (which it might be after getting with SO). So why do moms on here get pissed when their ex's SO encourages their ex to spend more time with his kids than he did before they got together. You would think that a mom would be happy that her ex is becoming more involved in their children's life. I don't get it, enlighten me!