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we don't have sex

Anonymous
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My husband and I have been married for 5 years. We have 2 kids (3.5 and 1.5) with our 3rd due very soon! He is a wonderful father, provider, and husband. I know without a doubt that he loves me. I know without a doubt he isn't cheating on me. We just don't have sex.. He shows NO interest in having sex with me. This started RIGHT after we got married in 2007.  Let me give a little back ground on DH


We were originally supposed to get married in June of 2007 and one day I came home early from work to find PORN rented on our tv. He admitted then that he had struggled with it since he was a teen. Porn is off limits at all cost to me. I don't agree with it. You should be having sex with your wife not yourself fantasizing about other women. So I had him get help he spoke with our pre-marriage counselor (it was a requirement before getting married at our church) . Well he tells me he hasn't masturbated in years.. I don't know how long.. I  don't know how true. I try very hard to believe him and trust him with this. I know he doesn't want to lose his family and yes, I would make him leave if I found out he was doing it again.. Not because he was doing it but because he didn't come to me with his problem as agreed. 


Now. We may  have sex.... once a month.. at best. I have a high sex drive. I like sex a lot. I can be butt naked in front of him and he doesn't even get erect. Given I am a little bit bigger than I was when we first got together and had sex 6 times a day BUT  I am pregnant and I have had 2 of his kids. It kills me I feel like I am not enough like if I was skinnier.. or prettier... or something. Maybe just maybe he would desire me. 

I am not one to keep my mouth shut about how I feel. I am honest with him and he knows I want more, He has this excuse on how he thinks that he tried so hard to get away from his addiction to porn that it has effected him with me... :( I honestly don't know what to do. I am over feeling this way. I am to the point of telling him he needs to go to the Dr. and figure out if it is chemical or something else is going... And my worse fear... is he gay? I mean... how many men have a willing horny wife and just don't care?

Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 28, 2012 at 4:15 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Aug. 28, 2012 at 4:19 PM
I have the opposite problem...I'm the one who doesn't care if we do it or not. I ordered this stuff you spray in your mouth 3 times a day and it puts you in the mood. Hope it works because I know he and I would be happier if we had sex more.
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by on Aug. 28, 2012 at 4:19 PM
It sounds like he's got an addiction to porn. The guilt is killing him.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Aug. 28, 2012 at 4:21 PM
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Masterbate next to him, maybe he will get the hint?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Aug. 28, 2012 at 4:23 PM
I have nothing nice to say sooooo....bye.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Aug. 28, 2012 at 4:24 PM

No advice, sorry. Here's a bump.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 28, 2012 at 4:25 PM

I guess I should add he has no access to the internet for porn anymore... We only have internet through my phone you have to have my phone to connect.. I mean he does have internet on his phone... I don't know how to check the history on that.. I don't want to go back to checking up on him. AND I know he HAD an addiction.. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Aug. 28, 2012 at 4:28 PM
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Give the guy a break. Maybe if you watch porn with him, he'll wanna do you!

I am not a fan of porn but I wouldn't make a big deal out of it either!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Aug. 28, 2012 at 4:29 PM

Okay, maybe he wants to be fucked. Not the whole we are married with children love making session, but a pure, hot, fuck session. Men get bored. Also, porn is NOT that big of a deal, it is not cheating. If they want to cheat porn is not going to make them do that.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 28, 2012 at 4:32 PM
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Porn is just off limits in my eyes. Lusting after another woman is cheating. That is just the way I see it. 

nerdymom28
by Ruby Member on Aug. 28, 2012 at 4:32 PM
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 Maybe he feels emasculated by you. He probably feels like he has no control over what he's "allowed" to do with his own body. I will never understand why a woman would be so upset by her man watching porn. That just seems unreasonable and controlling to me.

I'm really not trying to insult you - this is your opinion, and your marriage. I'm just giving my point of view. I hope you don't take it the wrong way.

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