Is it OK for a married woman..

[Anonymous]

To call another man and spill all of her marriages issues to him? Is it disrespectful (to her husband) in your opinion?

[MilesOfSmiles7]

I think DF should take the initiative to put it to a stop. Obviously by his response to her asking to call he knows you're not cool with the situation. He needs to man up and tell her enough is enough.

Quoting Anonymous:

She does act like a teenager. And no, she asked to call him when I was sitting right beside of him and his reply was "that probably wouldnt go over well" so no advice from him lol. I came extremely close to contacting her husband, but then realized. That'd probably cause more issues.

Quoting MilesOfSmiles7:

I think he's wrong. What does she need advice on if she left him and on top of that for the same reason as what she's doing with DF? I guess at this point he's given her advice already so I think my next move would be wait until she contacts again and ask him what he's giving her advice on this time? The whole thing just seems weird to me. I'm married and IMO acting like that makes her look like a teenager. I couldn't imagine talking to anyone about my marriage failing besides a therapist.

Quoting Anonymous:

DF feels like, "oh she's just wanting advice" just wanted to make sure I wasn't looking to deep into the situation..

Quoting MilesOfSmiles7:

You should explain this in the OP people think you're talking about yourself. She sounds like a hypocrit but at the end of the day, who cares what she does? If I were you, I'd be talking to my SO about why he feels the need to entertain her stupidity. I don't care how long they've been friends he should tell her that she is wrong and that he doesn't want to hear about it. IMO unless they are best friends then she's seeking attention from him and that wouldn't slide in my relationship.

Quoting Anonymous:

Well, its a girl from high school DF knows, who is already over stepping bounds with him. Although, that's not my main issue with this situation. My problem is she's LEFT her husband for talking about their marriage with co workers, but yet feels its ok to call my DF and bash her husband and all their issues. I wouldn't talk with anyone really if DF an I ever had major issues. In my eyes when you're having a problem in a relationship you talk to the person you're in the relationship with.

Quoting alwayskk:

I don't see why it matters whether she calls a man or a woman. I don't think it's disrespectful to your husband to talk to your friends about your problems but I think it's all in the tone of the conversation.

[momsince1989]

 Yes, imo if that man isn't a brother, cousin, uncle, dad or somehow related. And even with a relative there are just certain things that shouldn't be discussed again imo.

[UgtaBkdnMe]

yes it is disrespectful

[ShesALady]

I don't take my marital issues outside of my marriage. Wether female or male. I go to my husband.

[prettygirl326]

 yes and not only that, you are starting an emotional affair. they always start out that..and always lead to more.

[StrtnOvr]

Not OK with me. I have more respect for him and our marriage than to invite someone else into it.

[AdellesMom]

Quoting alwayskk:

I don't see why it matters whether she calls a man or a woman. I don't think it's disrespectful to your husband to talk to your friends about your problems but I think it's all in the tone of the conversation.

[Anonymous]

Not appropriate at all, and very disrespectful, imo.

[RighteousLove]

depends. but i kind of see it like this also. it if there's any problems in your relationship then the only person that you really should talk to is your spouse/SO. a lot of problems uproot from it (going to other people). but that's what i think. give your spouse the chance, to see if they listen and help you through these issues.