Will I be hindering my daughter's development if I don't send her to preschool?
My 3 year old daughter is set to start preschool next week. I am starting to become very hesitant about sending her. I am a stay at home mom and heve been home with my daughter since day one. My husband believes that I will hinder her development if I keep her home one more year. I don't necessarily see it that way. She is exremely advanced and verbal for her age, and I don't think that keeping her home one more year will change that. Maybe I'm wrong and I am just starting to have some separation issues, but she's my baby. I'm not ready to let her go. I need some advice from other mothers who have faced the same dilema. Thanks!
I don't think so. At least, not if you work with her yourself. I neer went to preschool. My mom simply taught me things at home. When I started kindergarten I was actually ahead of the other kids because of the one on one attention I received the year before. I don't plan on sending my kids to preschool. I simply don't see it as necessary. I think they would benefit more from being at home with me for that extra year.
If you don't want to send her, don't. Although I'll bet she has a blast with the other kids. My DD loved preschool. It wasn't about academics for me, it was more about socialization.
Not sending her won't hinder development as long as you educate her too. However, I see no disadvantage in sending her.
This was my thought exactly.
Quoting Anonymous:
Quoting peanutsmommy1:
Ask any kindergarten teacher the difference between a child who had been in preschool and who hasnt. A child who has a preschool experience is far more prepared for the structure of a kindergarten clasroom
What is key here is the CHILD went to pre school. It makes the TEACHERS job easier. If OP can keep her child at home, she will never regret doing that. Like I do. And a real teacher will deal.
I did not specify "play dates". There are plenty of community activities that are structured in the same fashion as a classroom that you, your child, your friends and their children can all be involved in. The bottom line is, too many are too lazy. They want to drop their kids off, leave it up to someone else to teach their child and have the time they could be teaching their child to themselves.
I taught my own kids. All 4 of my kids, 2 of them twin boys, knew all their shapes, colors, ABC's, how to spell their names and how to read by the age of 2 1/2. they werre doing basic math by age 3. My twin boys started the violin at 3, as well. They had already learned about structured classroom environments through community activities. If you take the time to see what your community offers, you will find a ton of structured activities for your child. But, yes, it takes effort on your part.
They all went into kindergarten knowing more than most of the rest of the kids in their classes who went to preschool and/or pre-k.
As I said, it's all in how much YOU want to do with your child(ren).
Quoting peanutsmommy1:
playdates are not the same thing as knowing how to function in a structured classroom envionment, that is a learned skill that is expected at k entrance these days
Quoting Anonymous:This is such an inaccurate blanket statement. It totally depends on the home environment. If a parent works with their child, teaching them the things they need to know and builds their social life through friends and community activities, the need for preschool is nonexistent.
Quoting peanutsmommy1:
Ask any kindergarten teacher the difference between a child who had been in preschool and who hasnt. A child who has a preschool experience is far more prepared for the structure of a kindergarten clasroom
are you ok with another woman calling your husband "hun" or "babe"
- raquel100
on Aug. 28, 2012 at 8:35 PM