6 year old left in poopy pants for at least 3 hours *Update*
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I am only anon because i dont know what is going to come of this. It happened today, and I only found out after my son got off of the bus at 4pm. He smelled so horrible that I asked who stunk (2 kids in school). He is 6 years old! His underwear were MATTED with poop. I mean from front to back. Good think he wore briefs and not boxer briefs today. He was so embarrassed that he didn't say anything to the teacher (a VERY timid child) but he said that kids were making fun of him all day. The teacher never sent him to the nurse, never asked him if he was ok, nothing. He said it happened during writing, which is before lunch! Then he had lunch, then recess, then they come in for more classes!
What would you do?
How would you respond?
ETA: So you dont have to ask again and again why my 6 year old had an accident.....he hasn't had an accident in over 2 years. I do not even remember when the last one was honestly, but I know it was over that many years ago. I do not know why he had a freaking accident.
No he is not special needs, which does NOT matter in this situation at all. If he was autistic, you would be screaming "Rip the teacher a new one" but since he is "just timid" it's his own fault, right? Makes total sense...he's 6 and was embarrassed, being made fun of!
UPDATE: We had a meeting with the principal and the teacher today. The teacher showed absolutely no remorse or sincere concern for my son, right in front of the principal. She said that she smelled something all day. She told the class that if someone needed to go to the restroom, to come tell her. She told us that he had to go to the bathroom all day long, and frequently went to the fountain (although he has a water bottle at his desk). She didn't care at all. After the principal saw this, he thinks it is best to transfer him into another class. She was THAT clear that she didn't care that the principal thought it was best. I was calm the entire time. I did tell her that she is the one that cares for my child while he is there for 7 hours a day, and that she should be responsible while my child is in her care. She just shrugged. We did find out which class he had the accident during....get this...the class was at 9-9:30AM!!!!! I looked it up on his class schedule and she agreed that the smell lasted that long, until the end of the day. My son was so humiliated. He was not in the meeting with us. The teacher actually had the audacity to ask if I would like her to speak with him about it. I told her that since he didn't trust her enough to tell her the first time I do not want her to speak to my child about it. I do not trust her.
I love this principal. I am so glad that he transferred from the other elementary to this school this year. He seems amazing. He has patience and although he was trying to hide his irritation with the teacher, I could see he was very unnerved by her responses.
He starts his new class tomorrow. I do not feel like his safety is a concern for her (with something that happened before this, and its only 9 days into school). I am so excited to meet his new teacher, and he will be with some other friends from last year.
I will be missing my first class of the day and going to the school. I am going to keep him home tomorrow too (in case he has a bug, and to let the situation play out a tiny bit)
Quoting alwayskk:I would be very upset and concerned. Can you go to the school tomorrow and talk to his teacher?
Send a change of clothing in his backpack for emergencies. Talk to the teacher and let her know that in the future you would like a call and would like your son to be allowed to change. It is not only unhealthy for him to be in it that long...it is just fuel for the kids to fire away at him in mean ways causing an already timid child to climb farther into his shell. If you get no where with the teacher...go above her head.
You dont think she would know? With kids making fun of him in the classroom!?
Quoting cmc638:
Id clean him up and explain he needs to go to the nurse if such a thing happens again. And id email the reached explaining what happened and ask politely why. She can't do anything if she's not told.
Do you ever get hit on even looking a mess?
Why inflict this silly cosmetic pain on a baby!?!