Today's the day - so incredibly nervous and slightly sick

[....ClvrScn.]

I have been trying to obtain medical insurance for my son for the past year. We make too much for public assistance, but couldn't afford insurance through my job, and my husbands company does not offer insurance.

Finally we obtained medical insurance.

I made my son an appointment immediately - and today is the day.

For the past 18 months, he has been exhibiting some pretty serious behavioral problems - at first we thought it was a phase, but now we are positive that there is something more to this.

We are thinking possibly adhd or odd but he's even shown signs of high functioning autism.

I have been preparing for this day for about 8 months. I have binders and notebooks full of his behaviors, challenges, and strengths - I have done 100's of hours of research

Today - we go see his pediatrician to discuss this and prepare for the next step

I am so nervous. I haven't slept at all - I feel sick, overloaded with information. I keep going over my discussion points to look for what I could be forgetting

Today - I have to ask a doctor what is wrong with my kid and tell him about all of the negative behaviors my son has exhibited. I am so afraid to speak these out loud. I am so afraid to do this.

Deep breaths. We leave in an hour to drop dh off at work, then pick up my mom . She's going with us, so that I can actually talk to the doctor without the distractions.

His appointment is in 3 hours.

[Supervane]

Hope you get the answers you need

[Mrs.Bryant1201]

Good luck!

[jb022210]

good luck, im currently going through the same process with my son

[staffordmommy]

Good luck momma!! Praying for you and your son!

[MeganECox]

Here's a hug! Stay strong mama.

[AnjalisMommy07]

GL!

[....ClvrScn.]

Thanks so much ladies - seriously, the support on this site just brought tears to my eyes! You ladies are wonderful. Then again, I've been in tears for 3.days lol

[Melissa7881]

Good luck....try to stay strong. I know its a lot to ask when it comes to your child...just know that your doing an amazing job and getting him the help he needs! God bless mama and sending prayers your way (((((HUGS)))))

[MunchiesMom324]

Awww, it's OK.  Just remember, having a name for the problem does not change who your son is.  Just because they slap a label on him does not mean he becomes a different person.  These things are here to help, and help YOU make everything better. 

I was in your shoes a few years ago.  Telling the behavioral ped about his behavior, I felt like I had failed - that I was on trial for my son's behavior.  I tried justifying everything. I cried.  When I left, I felt hollow.  However, we have a tentative diagnosis, he's on the proper medication, and he is a changed child!  It wasn't overnight, but it was pretty quick... and I have to say, I am very very proud of the boy he has become.  He still has bad days, but they are nowhere near as awful as they used to be.  He hasn't had a violent episode in a year and a half.  He has more impulse control, and is capable of learning now. 

Good luck.  If you ever need a shoulder, or have a question, PM me.  :)

[xXxLillithxXx]

My son has ADHD and ODD. He's only 4. Almost 5. If you need a mom friend that knows what it's like feel free to pm me.