DS is 6, he's had this one friend since pre school. They met at pre school and it turned out we live 2 blocks away from each other. Ever since they have been friends, they get together a lot to play. The play dates are , or were, almost entirely at my house. They would drop him off for hours and not call or come get him. I would try calling them but there would be no answer, I've tried taking him home but no one would be home. Once he was at my house until 9 30 at night, which isn't horrible IF you planned that in advance. So I stopped allowing him to come over for a while and they got the hint and got a little bit better about it. Let me add, that I am a single mom, I work from 9-6 most everyday, some days I go in at 10. The boss has to watch our hours for over time. This boy has two parents at home and neither of them work. The dad used to have some sort of business that dried up. This boy receives SSI they live off of that and food stamps.
They would allow their son to call my son and try to make plans with my son on school days. My son would get upset because I always had to be the bad guy. I explained to the mom, several times that I work until 6. Nothing gets done until I get home at 6 15. That's when I start dinner, then HW, then a bath. With our schedule there really isn't time to start a play date at 6 30. Nothing changed. The calls came all year long. Here we are in another school year and it's still happening. My son doesn't get upset anymore, he understands but it still annoys me.
My son goes to a charter school that's a bit of a drive from home. This mom asked me all summer why don't I put DS in our zoned school so the boys can go to school together. She said we could walk them to school together. Now she has told me herself, how she loves to sleep, always oversleeps, and her kids have so many tardies, in the past she's been in trouble with the truancy officer. Now I know why she really wants me to enroll DS there, so besides working all day, and having her kid at my house all weekend, while she sleeps all day, she wants me to take her damn kid to school too !! At first I couldn't imagine why it was so important to her where my son went to school. She keeps asking me how I can afford the gas to drive him to the charter school. She says, she knows I can't make that much money and I'm a single mom, etc etc. Like my finances are any of her business!! I can afford things because I have a J.O.B. She should try it some time. She is healthy and has no kids at home during the day, her 6 yr old is her youngest.
I don't know what else to say to her, to get her to but out of my business, tell her kid to stop calling 15x a day, and watch her own damn kid!