Why do so many women who are not engaged claim to be? I have seen it on here and in real life. Having a baby together out of wedlock and him not leaving you does not make you "engaged"! Where does this come from? When you get engaged, there is a proposal, a ring, and a plan for a wedding. If he is a loser who is dragging his feet for years, then leave him! If I have seen it once, I've seen it 100 times... "DF and I have been together for 10 years, and..." Really? Why? After 10 years you haven't been able to lock it down?
And then there are the "marriages". So many women on here claim to be in a "common law marriage", but there are very few states that recognize common law marriage. So very few people fall into the "common law" category, and yet, so many women claim it! Impossible. You aren't married. Accept it. Admit it. Something. (Note: I'm not saying that people in a real common law marriage aren't married! I'm saying that simply claiming it doesn't make it so.)
If you are lying about these things (especially if you are engaged on Cafemom but would die of humiliation if your SO saw you write that you are), then you clearly realize that your relationship is not where it seems it should be.