Fake Engagements and Marriages

[Anonymous]

Why do so many women who are not engaged claim to be?  I have seen it on here and in real life.  Having a baby together out of wedlock and him not leaving you does not make you "engaged"!  Where does this come from?  When you get engaged, there is a proposal, a ring, and a plan for a wedding.  If he is a loser who is dragging his feet for years, then leave him!  If I have seen it once, I've seen it 100 times... "DF and I have been together for 10 years, and..." Really?  Why?  After 10 years you haven't been able to lock it down?

And then there are the "marriages".  So many women on here claim to be in a "common law marriage", but there are very few states that recognize common law marriage.  So very few people fall into the "common law" category, and yet, so many women claim it!  Impossible.  You aren't married.  Accept it.  Admit it.  Something. (Note: I'm not saying that people in a real common law marriage aren't married!  I'm saying that simply claiming it doesn't make it so.)

If you are lying about these things (especially if you are engaged on Cafemom but would die of humiliation if your SO saw you write that you are), then you clearly realize that your relationship is not where it seems it should be.

[MrsRinehart2010]

 eh the engagment part I dont agree all the wy with my husband didnt propse he said hey were getting married lol.  he didnt propose we just got married lol.

but i get what your saying lol

[SpicyMommaKitty]

 If that's the biggest worry that you read on here then you need to keep reading.

[Angela198522]

I see it mostly on Facebook

[starryeyez23]

Me too. I got an email that said "we are getting married may 17. I took tomorrow off to get the license. I love you" and I STILL don't have an engagement ring, I just wear my promise ring. We have been married over 4 years

Quoting MrsRinehart2010:

 eh the engagment part I dont agree all the wy with my husband didnt propse he said hey were getting married lol.  he didnt propose we just got married lol.

but i get what your saying lol

[CheyanneW]

I think they are embarrassed to call their BF a BF because they think it sounds Highschool.

[Anonymous]

It's their coping mechanism for when they know they're just a baby momma.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Ehh... I see what you're saying.  There are people who don't necessarily "get engaged" in such a formal or tradtional way.  I guess my point is that when you really get engaged, it is because you are really going to get married.  This is not a proposal/engagement:

Him: You know, girl... I think I love you.  I might marry you one day.

Her: Aww... I love you, too.

(calls friend)

Her: I'm getting married!  He said we are getting married!

Quoting MrsRinehart2010:

 eh the engagment part I dont agree all the wy with my husband didnt propse he said hey were getting married lol.  he didnt propose we just got married lol.

but i get what your saying lol

[EAzizM]

Their definition of each other has no bearing on my life or marriage. *shrugs*

[MrsRinehart2010]

 exactlly we got enganged an married several days later lol..  I have  wedding slash engagement ring lol I picked it out at the pawn shop becuase I didnt want to spend a shit ton on  a ring when I dont like wearing jewlery as it is. MY ring is the onlly jewelry I wear an its pretty simple. If my husband would have picked it out he would have picked ot some expensive crap .lol

Quoting starryeyez23:

Me too. I got an email that said "we are getting married may 17. I took tomorrow off to get the license. I love you" and I STILL don't have an engagement ring, I just wear my promise ring. We have been married over 4 years

Quoting MrsRinehart2010:

 eh the engagment part I dont agree all the wy with my husband didnt propse he said hey were getting married lol.  he didnt propose we just got married lol.

but i get what your saying lol

 

[justpeachy71904]

Um excuse me, I have been with my SO for 7 yrs. Engaged for 2 and we don't have a date yet... Your point was?

And we own a house, 2 cars and 4 animals together. We are very happy. But I guess we drag our feet smh