DH has cancer and I'm divorcing him

[Anonymous]

Before he was diagnosed with cancer, he cheated on me WHILE I WAS PREGNANT WITH OUR TWINS, was gone for the first three months of the twins life because he couldn't take the "pressure" and he was so verbally abusive that I became anorexic to lose weight. I had to go to counseling so I wouldn't die from malnutrition. After all of the horrible things he had put me throuh, I took him back EVERY TIME! I never once told him he couldn't come back home, I never once told him he couldn't see the boys! NEVER!!! I was ALWAYS open and there for him. He was gone this year for six months because he felt like "less of a man" because I make more money than him. So all of the sudden, he came back to my house two days ago crying. This time, I was so fed up with his bull shit and so fed up with him coming in and out of my childrens lives that I told him to get his ass and his garbage out of MY fucking house! I even throw the divorce papers in his face. He starts crying and saying how much he loves me and wants to be with me but I don't want to hear it. Then he hands me some papers that says he has lung cancer and I feel like such a crazy, disgusting bitch.

When he left, he always left with a different girl and that always took a chunk out of my heart. Now I don't know what the hell to do.

[Anonymous]

You let him go. You didn't give him cancer and the disease doesn't magically make him a good man, husband, or father. You have nothing to feel guilty over, just let him go.

[Anonymous]

He wasn't there for you, or his babies you don't have to take care of him either. He should have thought about who would've been there for him before he threw it all away. I hope everything works out okay.

[kryptomom]

Sh*t.  I guess stay so that if he dies (not wishing it) you get the benefits. 

I only say this because clearly there is no more love there.

[anyotherday]

:(

[lilbit53009]

well...karma is a bitch

i'm sorry he put you in the situation...but him having cancer now and wanting to come crawling back doesn't change the things he's done to you in the past

i'd let him see the kids as much as he wants (in case it's bad and he doesn't have much time left). but i wouldn't just go back to him if you didn't want to just because you feel bad for him that he has cancer

[Anonymous]

Quoting Anonymous:

You let him go. You didn't give him cancer and the disease doesn't magically make him a good man, husband, or father. You have nothing to feel guilty over, just let him go.

[AubreeGrace17]

Leave that asshole. Don't forget the awful things he has done to you and your kids!

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Benefits? Are you KIDDING me? He doesn't have a job anymore. He was fired once he decided he was going to just leave for six months. The idiot doesn't even have LIFE INSURANCE

Quoting kryptomom:

Sh*t.  I guess stay so that if he dies (not wishing it) you get the benefits. 

I only say this because clearly there is no more love there.

[Nunyabusiness]

Too bad. He left you when he should have manned up.

[nramey]

That's an awful position to be in. I am so sorry you are going through this.....don't feel like a disgusting Bitch though. You had and have every right to be angry. Can you work on forgiving what he did and try to develop a friendship rather than a married relationship? Maybe best for all of you at this time. Life is so short....