... believe that a premature baby born at 16 or 20 weeks could possibly survive and live a healthy life?
I have been reading posts this evening and my heart hurts so badly. I seriously just want to throw up. Both of my beautiful babies were born extremely premature. My oldest was born at 24 weeks and weighed 1lb 8oz. My youngest at 26 weeks and weighed 2lbs 2oz. They weren't the smallest at the hospitals they were born at, but they were pretty flippin close.
My babies were given a 50-50 chance of survival. Thankfully, they came home on no machines, and are now happy and healthy teenagers (oldest will be 16 on Monday). I saw babies coming home on machines helping them breathe and eat. I saw babies coming home blind, deaf, and unable to control their muscles. I saw babies who would never walk, never talk, never have a chance at a normal life. Why? Because they were premature. Yes, some are lucky. But so many are not.
The post that I was reading was referring to aborton survivors being given a chance to thrive. Let's be real. If a child is aborted legally, that would be in the first two terms as late term abortions are illegal (and rightfully so). That would be at 16 or 20 weeks. Even when a child is not an abortion survivor (as in born prematurely), the medical community will not attempt to save a child that early because the risk is too great and quite honestly, they don't have the ability to because the baby cannot survive.
I wish I could take you to a NICU and show you the babies that fight for their lives. I wish I could show you the hurt and pain in the parents' faces as they watch their babies struggle to make it to the next day. I wish I could show you the anguish that the parents feel when they wonder if their child will ever live a happy life. I wish I could show you the fear that my children had for needles after their experience (when I was pregnant with my youngest, I'd have to set the stroller with my oldest in the hallway when I got blood drawn she was so petrified of needles). It wasn't until they were teenagers that they would get shots without being held down.
So put the "viability" of the baby on the shelf for a moment. Now, if a baby born at 16 weeks (let's just call it born since they surivived an abortion - they are then born), for whatever reason, the mother obviously does not want the child or else she wouldn't have attempted an abortion. So now, the baby is going to have a laundry list of health issues... and who is going to care for the baby? How many people looking to adopt are going to want a baby with so many medical issues? Not many. So where do they live? In foster homes, in group homes, in hospitals... what the hell kind of life is that? So please ladies, think for a minute before you talk about things you know nothing of. I wouldn't wish the experience my children had on my worst enemy.
So my confession this evening is, CM got me worked up and flashed back, and I'm in tears. Thanks.