I have recently decided to choose very carefully the family members I choose to let into my life, and how often we have contact.
My Grandma is someone I have a weird relationship with but none the less, I love her, she raised me more than my Mom, and she helps TONS with the kids, or if I need financial help. We honestly really wouldnt have what we have without her. Im improving everyday to make it to where I canhelp them back financially.
Im just so sick of the negative crap she says. ALL THE TIME. She says Im jealous of her, that I need to try harder (Im about to be going to school AND working full time, I dont know how much harder I could try!) and that I wouldnt survive without her. She puts down my parenting, ect ect. Sometimes I do get an attitude or snarky with her because it makes me mad.
However, my mother stole Grandmas credit card and ran it up to where Grandma and Grandpa had to take a 50,000 dollar loan out on the house to pay the debt. My cousin steals their pain killers, and makes synthetic drugs in his house with his daughter. His daughter has had lice for a year and a half, came over with a soaking through diaper to where the carpet was wet when I went to chang her. The list could go on of people who take advantage of them.
But yet, Im the bad person, Im the one whos mean. My kids love Grandma, and she loves them and I cant fathom not having herin my life, but no matter what I do she puts me down. I will admit that I dont know what Id do without her, but the way she said it, and the context she said it in really bothered me. And we got in an argument.
I could survive easily without her. We do okay without her know, its just when unexpected things come up I know that I can go to her,without havig to stress where this or that will come from. I just dont know what to do. :/ Im just so hurt that I pretty much dont have anyone, and then she like rubs it in my face and acts like its an inconvenience that she "needs" to be there for us because she feels that I "need her".