My DD's friend's mom is mad that I tooker her to church
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My DD wanted to have a friend spend the night last night, they are 12. The mom has told me before that she doesn't approve of organized religion. I said that was fine for her to spend the night but to make sure the mom knew that we leave for church at 8 am and if she is not picked up by then, she will go with us. She lives 15 min in the other direction of the church so I wouldn't have time to drop her off. I mentioned that to the mom when she dropped her off as well. Well, 8 am rolled around and the mom didn't come, we called and her cell phone was off. So we left and her friend went with us to church. I left the mom a voicemail telling her we were going to church and we would be home by 2 pm since we go out to lunch with my parents after church. The mom came to pick her up at just after 2 and started yelling at me that how dare I take her DD to church against her wishes. I reminded her that I had said she had to be picked up by 8 or we would have to take her with her. She felt that I should have just dropped her off (making my entire family late, when I didn't even know whether she would be home or not and if she is not home, I am not leaving the 12 year old there). I feel like if it was that big of a deal for her, she would have picked her up on time.
Also, the girl LOVED church and she wants to go with us now. I am hoping that perhaps this might get the family involved.
you were not wrong in doing what you said would be done if she wasn't picked up by 8. but i also agree that taking others peoples children to an organization they don't approve of is crossing the line. but you did warn her so idk.
also it is NOT your place to oppose influence of religion on somone elses child even if they said they enjoyed it. this IS NOT an opportunity for you to get them involved. it is not your place nor your business to interfere in others peoples beliefs. this is not going to get them involved lol
if You honestly did tell the parents when and where you were going and did try your best to get ahold of them before hand then well she can only be mad at herself. if you did it on the sly and didnt really warn them fully then WRONG. there child loving it has 0 to do with anything lots of kids like love things or would if exposed that their families dont approve of
Quoting Anonymous:
You were both wrong, imo.
She should have picked her kid up though, if it meant that much to her
I think I am going to start using the rule my mom used to use: if you spend the night Saturday night, you go to church with us Sunday morning, if that's not ok with you or you parents, spend the night Friday night". I mean, obviously, if a parent picked their kid up before church, I would not say they couldn't but I just don't think I will make plans for the parent to pick the child up in the morning. I tried to just say whatever, the can just be picked up in the morning but, clearly, that's not working. I feel I shouldn't have to choose between possibly upsetting another parent and making my family late for church because that parent can't get their child on time.
Quoting Anonymous:
Quoting Anonymous:
You were both wrong, imo.
She should have picked her kid up though, if it meant that much to herI think I am going to start using the rule my mom used to use: if you spend the night Saturday night, you go to church with us Sunday morning, if that's not ok with you or you parents, spend the night Friday night". I mean, obviously, if a parent picked their kid up before church, I would not say they couldn't but I just don't think I will make plans for the parent to pick the child up in the morning. I tried to just say whatever, the can just be picked up in the morning but, clearly, that's not working. I feel I shouldn't have to choose between possibly upsetting another parent and making my family late for church because that parent can't get their child on time.
Do you ever get hit on even looking a mess?
Why inflict this silly cosmetic pain on a baby!?!