I could really use your help (kinda long, sorry) update
I was in an accident a month and a half ago and in a medically induced coma for two weeks. I woke up with amnesia (I know, I know, cue eyerolling and comments about me trolling now). I guess now I'm married and we have a 9 month old son. I don't remember any of this. I remember snippets here and there about my son and husband, but not much. I don't remember meeting him, dating him, getting married, being pregnant, giving birth... nothing. But I've been getting closer with my son and things are fine there.
The problem I'm having is with this man. I'm having a very difficult time being intimate with him, even though he's my husband. I feel like I don't know him (which I don't, really, but you know what I mean). He's nice though and I'm sure he's a good person if I was willing to marry him. The thing is, I believe women should be intimate with their husbands, but it doesn't FEEL like he's my husband. He's a nice guy and hasn't brought it up, but in a way I feel like I'm depriving him of his right as a married man. I feel bad that I haven't been able to have sex with him yet, but I get all nervous and shaky and sick to my stomach just thinking about it, and I think part of it is because I feel obligated, you know?
So what is your advice? Wait (possibly months) until I'm more comfortable, or 'fake it til you make it'? I've considered the possibility that maybe just sucking it up and doing it might kind of help force my feelings for him and maybe even possibly help me remember him better and remember being in love with him, but... I've been too chicken to try so far. So, what do you think?
For those asking, I joined after I got out of the hospital, I didn't "remember CafeMom". I don't know if I had an account before, but I made one to get help with the baby.
Update, for anyone that cares: a few of you had suggested dating again to get to know each other, and I thought it was a good idea. Apparently he thought it was a good idea too, because he suggested it before I even had a chance to bring it up. He had asked about it on another website and that's what was told to him too.
Anyway, things are going okay. I'm still have trouble remembering things and bonding with the baby and we haven't had sex yet, but therapy and the support group are helping a lot, and even though I still don't feel quite like myself, at least I'm a little less uncomfortable now than I was. So, thank you for all your help and suggestions. I'm going to bed now.