Well I been dating a guy for 2years, we started dating when I was pregnant (my ex left me, I thought bf was crazy) but alas he wanted to date me and we dated since. He has taken over being my sons father figure with out any expectations. He wanted to and was happy to, he said he was happy to finally have a family.
Things for us have not been the best, YES he picked up loving my son and wanted to provide a vechile for my son and I. but other than that he never help me emotionally or other finances other than the car,, (which is a HUGE help dont get me wrong I am very thankful) but It sucked more that I was suffering PPD and had o support.
He was not the best with his money!! HORRIBLE. his car and my car always got paid but he was always needing moeny for gas or what ever. I was always paying for all these extras when I had my own bills and needs to cover for my son and I. the stress of his financial issue s got to along with the no emotinal support.
Now let add the fact that I was dating a VIRGIN!! I was always respectful and agreed to his not wanting to have sex til marriage beliefs but it was killing me as well and I wanted to seek comfort in other places (I NEVER ACTED OUT ON THIS , i just wanted to) this weekend i broke up with him.
we had talked the last couple of weekends to to many agruments and just plain not happy relationship. and decided we were only together for my son. he didnt want to leave cuz he didnt want my son to be abandoned but the only dad he knows. so we ened it with visitation once everyother week.
How would you ladies have handled this? He wasnt my son bio father but he wants to still spend time with ds and pay for our vehicle (he said I never originally agreed to pay for a car so he will continue paying til it paid off) I am kinda glad we were able to sit down talk and agree to somehing like adults. we are still friends. both our families know the situation and have agreed to support our desision and his family still wants visitaion with ds. they had always treated him like there own family me too.