Today is my sons 16 birthday. I allowed him to do as he wanted this weekend - had a friend spend friday - saturday with us. Went out to birthday lunch and dinner, got a few things he has wanted what ever.....
Today he hung out with his dad for about 4 hours. They went shopping.
Up until my son was 10 year old I was his sole provider, his only parent. His dad was a willy nilly kind of dad. He would see our son once or twice a month. I would BEG him for any kind of child support. Put it like this, in 16 years our son has spent the night at his dads house 3 times. Our son has seen his fathers mother about 10 times.... no one in his dads family does anymore than post on his (our sons) facebook page.
His dad and I are on extremely good terms never had a falling out after we broke up. Issues were always delt with BUT I'm pissed right now..... this is what he posted on his FB page to honor our son
oday I would like to dedicate my status to my son ( I took out our sons name)16 years ago on this very day, u came into my live & brought me happiness, joy & a lot of love!!! How can I ever forget the moment when I took u in my arms for the very first time!! U are a gentleman, like no other, You are a humble human being, All the effort & love that me & your mom put into raising you has more than paid off!!! Today we are the proud parents of a young men, I want to let u know that I will always be there for u, every step of the way and in every walk of life, I love you dearly....Very few parents in the world are blessed with a son like you....Being a father to a lovable child like you has been the most blissful & heavenly experience for me. Thanks for giving me happy times and unforgettable memories that I will cherish for a lifetime!!!! Today u turn 16=) But no matter how many birthdays come and go, u will always be my little Babyboy who took his first steps while holding my finger!!! As you start another fantastic year of ur life, I wish that all your dreams come true.....U are truly the best son in the whole world Ur More than a son, you are like a gift from God himself, U are the reason I get out of bed every single day of my life. Your existence has given my life a meaning and a purpose. I love you so muc Happy Birthday Babyboy
UMMMMMMMMMMMMM its a damn lie - my son started walking with me, memory serves me right he didnt see our son that MONTH All the effort me and HIM put into raising him.......... LIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIESSS I did it... alllllllllllll of it. HE never changed a diaper on our son, never gave him a bath, never fed him baby food. There are TONS of things he has NEVER dont for or with our son. Only in the last 6 years or so he has slowly be coming around and doing much better.... but WOW who is he trying to impress..... ughh
This is what I posted this morning about our son:
Today is XXXX 16th Birthday! I guess it's time for me to stop looking at him like my little boy, huh.. It seems like JUST yesterday he was running around like a bat out of hell, climbing stuff he wasn't supposed to. Getting himself in the most ridiculous of situations, all because he had this need for a THRILL. He's now a high school student, talking about getting his drivers lice
Why it would piss you off though!
BUT you're an adult with a 16 year old. Time to learn to let it roll off your shoulders.
your son is aware of how he has treated him over the years and i think that is the only person who really matters.
if he is lying about what kind of father he was and maybe even the kind he wishes he had been, that is just really sad.
I don't know where the sunbeams end and the starlights begin; it's all a mystery.
It pisses me off one because I feel its disrespectful to all that I did without him. And two at 38 years old who the heck are you trying to impress.... He could have written a great loving letter to our son about how great he is and all that he mean to him. My son (his dad tagged him in the post) also said but Mom, dad wasnt around until a few years ago what is he talking about.
Quoting cherrywaves21:
You know the truth and he knows the truth. He's just trying to look good for his FB friends. I can understand
Why it would piss you off though!
I am not "holding" on to anything. I posted here to vent. That doesn't mean I am not letting it roll off.
Quoting Anonymous:
I understand he was an absentee parent for a good chunk of time, and how frustrating this lie must be.
BUT you're an adult with a 16 year old. Time to learn to let it roll off your shoulders.
He is aware of everything. Not that I ever spoke badly about his dad. His dad and I have known each other sine I was 9 so many many years . I have never spoken badly about his dad to our on or anything. What my son knows is from first hand experience. Broken promises and excuses mostly.
Quoting ripemango:your son is aware of how he has treated him over the years and i think that is the only person who really matters.
if he is lying about what kind of father he was and maybe even the kind he wishes he had been, that is just really sad.
I think my son holds some resentment. He has told me that he looks at his dad asa friend and not as a dad. That he looks at my boyfriend (we have been together 10 years this October) as more of a dad.
Quoting jimi2626:
Your son is going to see it and know it is BS. How great would it be if he called him out on it!?
I wouldn't be surprised if his FB page angers and hurts your son too :(
Quoting I.heart.my.kids:What my son knows is from first hand experience. Broken promises and excuses mostly.
I don't know where the sunbeams end and the starlights begin; it's all a mystery.
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- I.heart.my.kids
on Sep. 4, 2012 at 8:43 PM