I am posting in this group because of the anon option...I am embarrassed at how weak I have been. I am just not string enough to continue living like this. I cry daily...
Long story short, I am married to a 27 year old who has been married once before and the exwife is very crazy...not exaggerating...he also has two children they are five and six. At first I felt like I could deal with it all and I did well for two years now. We now have a baby on the way, my first bio, and shit has definitely hit the fan. I am due in December and this has made bm go even more crazy.
Well bm has been telling the kid that their dh ad I have been hitting them. (I will even swear on my baby that we have not later a hand on those kids in anger, not even a spank or a seat. We rely solely on time outs) well every time the cops come to us and take a report an literally leave our house laughing and shaking their heads bc the supposed bruises that we inflicted are in our camera with a time stamp showing the bruise was there prior to us picking them up from their mother.
Child protective services has gotten involved numerous times and dismissed it all, but since she is telling the kids to say that they have been getting hit here the CPS worker informed me that even though there is no proof to these claims of abuse, the children continuously confirming these things could eventually get them taken away from us.
Here is where I freaked out...she also told me if the kids are removed from us they will also be removing MY baby from the household and it would be hell to get him back. It isn't fair to the kids, but because of all of their lies I could lose what little family I have and an innocent baby who doesn't deserve this situation.
Well, to sum it up, dh and I talked last night and I may be leaving him. I love him and want to be with him, but I refuse to let some crazy bm and a five and six year old hold MY life and the life of MY child in their hands.
Idk what I am looking for by posting this, maybe I just needed to get it out. I can't stop crying and puking because I am in so much turmoil and scared for our future. I would be moving 1000 miles away from dh because I have no family in this state and I already feel so alone.
**we have fifty/fifty custody...pay for everything for his kids...pay child support...We also have a custody hearing at the end of this month because we are trying to get them full time because of things she is doing to them that I won't get into on here, after she found out about the hearing is when she started making the false accusations...
Sorry not much news here...but I did sit the kids down with dh and talk about what they are doing. I had found out earlier today that the six year told CPS that we has been "kicking her vagina" and this little girl has never even said the word vagina! (she usually refers to it as her weewee) We also found out more things that the five year old has been saying to CPS as well. I am not sure if it is a good sign that she tells us everything or if that always happens, but she seems to be very open about these allegations.....anyways, we talked to them about what they said and only brought up what the case worker informed us of and they said they never told anyone that and we stressed again how important the truth is and they again denied it. I knew they were lieing again because they kept looking at each other before answering. I decided to be very blunt an honest with them about what could happen because of the lies i.e. Us going to jail/ them never seeing us again/them never seeing baby/us not getting to take care of them or the baby ever again...just the truth. Well they began to cry and untold them we don't want them to cry we just don't want them taken away from us and they began to spill their guts.
They started saying they had been lieing and they did say those things, but none of them were true. The five year old say his mom told him that daddy kept hitting him and that daddy needs to go to jail and the conversation went on and on from there. We told them that we still love them and just wanted them to know what they were doing, but if they ever were being hit by ANYONE they needed to tell...if it was us, mom, grandma, grandpa, anyone!!!
We also recorded our whole twenty minute convo, but did not use leading questions and we don't know if it will hold up in our case or not, but we wante our explanation about what could possibly happen on tape so no one could say we coerced or lied to them to scare them of intimidate them.
I will keep updating as things progress. Thank you for all of you who spent some time on my post, I just want to stop fearing for the future of my family.