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If your ob said you might have something that could potentially mean

Anonymous
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Your child could have deformities from missing digits or limbs, on up to cleft lip or palate or club foot or hand and then told you to wait 4 weeks to "look again" what would you do? I am not FREAKING out but I think about it EVERYDAY. My husband says not to even let it cross my mind as if i am crazy but i feel like i am being normal. I am staying calm but that doesnt mean i just pretend it wasn't said. Btw if it IS what he said its an amniotic band. My next doctors appt isnt until the first but they might bring.me in earlier for an ultrasound. How do I stay patient? What would you do?
Posted by Anonymous on Sep. 12, 2012 at 8:14 AM
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lauraschatz
by Gold Member on Sep. 12, 2012 at 8:17 AM
That's a tough one mama. I'm sorry you are going through this.
I guess I would just try to keep in mind that they can do some pretty amazing things with corrective surgery these days. That and think about being strong for your little one.
You are not crazy!
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Xat
by Silver Member on Sep. 12, 2012 at 8:21 AM

It's very hard to stay patient. When I was pregnant with my youngest I was already having problems and then one day after my appointment I received a phone call from the doctor saying that there was a good chance my baby would have down syndrome. I had to wait about 3 weeks before we could start seeing the specialist to even start the testing to find out. Then our first appointment there they ran a bunch of test and did an ultrasound and then up the chances of him having down syndrome because of things that they found during the ultrasound. I ended up having to wait about 2 months before I found anything out. Luckily he didn't have down syndrome but we still had a high risk pregnancy until he was born healthy.

Good luck I know the waiting can be stressful. I hope all goes well and you have a healthy little one.

happy2bmom25
by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 8:27 AM
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we don't do routine testings or even ultrasounds. we have no reason to suspect a problem, so we just go with our pregnancies. if something comes up then we will consider some tests. i have heard too many tests with false positives. adding the stress to a pregnant mom is counterproductive.

I truly believe that our children are blessings, weather they have 10 toes or not! there are so many amazing people with missing digits and/ or limbs. and there are so many dr's raising concerns when they should not.

I can't imagine being able to not worry...once that seed has been planted. I wish the best for you and your baby, and if you believe then all i can say is pray.

lovelove211
by Platinum Member on Sep. 12, 2012 at 8:30 AM
When I was pregnant with my first her femur was measuring short, I was told she likely had down syndrome or dwarfism, fast forward my daughter was born and she does not have down syndrome or dwarfism and is now on the 60th percentile for height. Try not to stress, I did and it turned out the doctors were completely wrong
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Sep. 12, 2012 at 8:31 AM

 I think I'd demand answers, right then and there. I'm sorry but any severe deformities (that could not be corrected with surgery and that would cause a miserable life), I would abort. I could not see bringing a child into this world with severe deformities and my child not being able to live life to the fullest.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Sep. 12, 2012 at 8:33 AM
I am already a high risk pregnancy for other reasons and multiple miscarriages so being monitored is good for me. I have been praying God give me what I need no matter the outcome that I have the perfect child for me even if there are complications. I know he'd get me through it but its hard to imagine being young (23) and this is dh's first and having this at least if it ended up on the more severe side. Thank you ladies though. I need the encourageent right now!

Quoting happy2bmom25:

we don't do routine testings or even ultrasounds. we have no reason to suspect a problem, so we just go with our pregnancies. if something comes up then we will consider some tests. i have heard too many tests with false positives. adding the stress to a pregnant mom is counterproductive.

I truly believe that our children are blessings, weather they have 10 toes or not! there are so many amazing people with missing digits and/ or limbs. and there are so many dr's raising concerns when they should not.

I can't imagine being able to not worry...once that seed has been planted. I wish the best for you and your baby, and if you believe then all i can say is pray.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Sep. 12, 2012 at 8:43 AM

i would wait 4 weeks to look again. 

i think i would worry and be a little upset at the shock of news like that, but what else is there to do, really? it's ok to feel nervous or anxious but... talk about it with someone and try to keep busy for 4 weeks!! good luck

funny_girl3
by Gold Member on Sep. 12, 2012 at 9:16 AM

I would go crazy with worry too, I'm so sorry you have to go through this.  Is this something they found with an ultrasound?  Is there something that can be done to correct it?

funny_girl3
by Gold Member on Sep. 12, 2012 at 9:25 AM

I didn't want to do prenatal testing either, because I already know I want the baby so what's the point?  But when you have a high risk pregnancy you have to do what's right for the baby.

Quoting happy2bmom25:

we don't do routine testings or even ultrasounds. we have no reason to suspect a problem, so we just go with our pregnancies. if something comes up then we will consider some tests. i have heard too many tests with false positives. adding the stress to a pregnant mom is counterproductive.

I truly believe that our children are blessings, weather they have 10 toes or not! there are so many amazing people with missing digits and/ or limbs. and there are so many dr's raising concerns when they should not.

I can't imagine being able to not worry...once that seed has been planted. I wish the best for you and your baby, and if you believe then all i can say is pray.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Sep. 12, 2012 at 9:26 AM

I am tripping out just because they said that the kid is measuring small I wouldn't be able to just sit and twiddle my thumbs for that long, I would go get a second opinion for sure.

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