How having a "helicoptor" mom affected my adult life
My mom is/was what you call a helicoptor mom. She was very protective of me, monitored everything, was very strict. I am now an adult and a mother of three and I feel that her parenting style negatively affected my adult life.
Since she made my choices for me, I didn't know how to make good decisions. In fact, from the time i was 18-22 I made mostly poor decisions. All of those "mistakes" teenagers made, I made them as an adult. and the difference is that when you make these choice as an adult it follows you for a long time. Luckily I am the type that learns from my mistakes. If I was not, I'd probably still be making poor choices due to my lack of EXPERIENCE in making my own choices at a young age.
You see, you can teach your children about making choices, but until they experience the act of doing it, they can't completely grasp it. It's like telling someone "one day, you will ride a bike. And when you do, you will do it like this" but never letting them get on a bike. The knowledge of being told how was useless, because it is a learning experience.
So, to the helicoptor moms out there, I am asking you to please give your children the chance to learn for themselves. They will be much better off learning how to make good AND bad choices at a younger age rather than learning this process as an adult when it really counts!