Would it bother you if your husband went to get a massage... EDIT
and got a happy ending? My good friend just got in an enormous fight with her husband because he regularly goes to a massage place and gets happy endings (hand job). Today they were going together and she asked him if he would please not when they go there together and he got really mad and said she was trying to control him.
ETA - I should probably also mention that they are swingers so the line is kind of blurred all over the place in their marriage. But even with that I think he's incredibly disrespectful to go get a massage with his wife and require a happy ending. For her I guess she sees the swinging part as something they should only do together and for him it seems that its more like a license to have an open marriage.