I think he is going to leave me soon =[

[Anonymous]

Dh has been acting very distant lately. He put a lock on his phone weeks ago and is always on it. Idk if he's talking to someone else on the net or if he just wants privacy but if I get close when he's looking at it he looks up at me and makes sure the screen is facing away. He's acting really shady. I know he looks at porn a lot but that never bothered me. It only started to bother me that his sex drive has taken a nose dive. We were both sick recently and a lot has been going on with our stress at home. Money is tight but that never stopped him before. I've caught him in lies before and he will flat out deny anything and turn it on me. I do love him but I think he's not happy in our marriage anymore. Idk if its because every since we got married we've been broke or if its just me. He's a pretty good dad just a bit impatient with our two yr old ds. We haven't had a date in a year because we never have the money or a sitter. Our son is difficult in that dh spoiled him the second year and overrode me in every way as far as discipline and now ds has a huge temper. I literally dread taking him to the grocery store or anywhere. Today he clawed my neck and arms at wal mart and screamed the whole time.
I'm just trying to make this work but I feel like I'm the only one. Dh over spends and just expects someone to loan us money all the time. He hasn't kept a job for more than a few months since we've been married and wouldn't come home one night so I could go to work so I lost my job and he's been riding me ever since to find another. I finally got one and its a great job. But it still isn't good enough because I won't start until october first. I hoped he would be proud but he still walks around and just says he's unhappy. He's already broken my heart so much that I almost expect it. That doesn't mean I want it. I took vows and it hurts that I seem to be the only one who meant them. I'm sad. He was so sweet when we were first together. And now its just a struggle to get him to smile. He won't go to counseling and he's begun saying some really mean things to me. We were together all day but he never said I love you one time. I want to cry. Ds is just 2 but his outbursts and tantrums make it hard to hear each other talk. I miss him even when he's home.
Just had to get that out. I tried talking to him but he won't talk. When I'm quiet he asks what's wrong then says I'm nagging when I tell him. Its beyond infuriating that I've done everything he ever asked and it still wasn't good enough. He threatens to leave all the time and I guess I should have known.

[erica7227]

He threatens to leave all of the time? No good husband does that, forget all the other stuff.

[model1000mom]

If he is always threatening to leave then it may be time for you to stop ignoring it and tell him to just go then...and be serious.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Well that's why this job is important. So I can support myself and my son. But its never easy to walk away after so much time with someone.

[First_One_8_18]

Bam, silver member.

Sorry about your luck. He sounds like he's up to something.

[Peaceful.chaos]

Sounds like he's pushing you to be the one to end it. Based on what you've typed he has completely checked out of this marriage. I think it's time to have a serious talk.

[km1970]

 awww...hon...I learned a long time ago, sometimes your are more lonely with someone than you are being alone. 

It's your decision whether you stay or not.

just going by what you wrote...I would say, you are putting way more effort into your relationship and family than he is. It sounds like he is dead weight and doing nothing but bringing you down.

In the end, it's your decision, though and I wish you the best.

[ashbrydio]

Sorry about what ur going through I hope u find out something let us know

[daughteroftruth]

Well, if the threatens to leave, tell him you will pack his bag. Let me understand this better...you willl be working, he does not right now? So he is expecting you to provide for him?

[raye-chan]

Sounds like he's already gone from the marriage honestly. He sounds like he doesn't want to put forth the effort and if he threatens to leave all the time then it sounds like you should tell him to. If he truly loved you he'd never say those things he is saying to you.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Well he certainly acts happy to let me take care of everything when he isn't working. He doesn't threaten to leave everyday but when he get into an argument if I don't back down he does say he's about ready to pack up. And he sleeps as late as he wants and has never gotten up with ds. I haven't slept in for two and a half years!