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My dd is 13, and her dad and I were never married, no custody or visitation order by the court, but I had been letting him have visits with her since she was a year old. I had been getting fed up with him and his meaningless promises and such, and my dd had gotten fed up with her father as well, for many reasons. Well, last year, he cut off the cell phone she had. At the time that was the only phone we had, so I thought it was pretty stupid of him to turn it off. He had no other way to reach me or her. He didn't even know our address at the time. He cut it off bc he was mad at us, or mad at me specifically. I decided that was the last straw, and I made no effort to contact him.
A couple of months later he finally made an effort to find us and called me, on our new phone, and wanted to talk to my dd, but she didn't want to talk to him, and I said I wasn't going to make her if she didn't want to. He yelled and got mad, and then when that didn't work, he just gave up and hasn't done anything to try and reach out to her. He does have our address now, and our email, and phone number.
I called him a couple of weeks ago to ask why the child support hadn't come, and he again wanted to talk to her but I said no. This was the first time I had spoken to him since last Nov. He goes on abut how much he misses her and wants to see her. It's all such bs. He said he doesn't understand why she doesn't want to see him, that he has never hurt her. I said he has hurt her emotionally, by things he has said and done, by promises he has broken, nd by ignoring her and not listening to her, but he just doesn't get it. I am never calling him again and I don't care if he ever sees her again. I am so fed up with him and his crap, and I am so glad to be rid of him.