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is anyone here

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that is in a relationship/marriage because you have just given up? meaning.....you know deep down its not going to work but u keep it going for whatever reason? physical abuse, emotional abuse, drug abuse, cheating problems, etc dont even deter you from leaving your man? you are just like "fuck it, i'll deal with it". maybe its because of the kids...maybe its bc u dont want to be alone but doesnt it suck? as i type this i cry....im depressed and lonely....my man and other men deny they have problems and just blamne eveyrthing on you......they make you feel inferior and they have control of the relationship..its easy for me to leave but i dont know why i stay....anyone out there feel like this at all? of course i know im going to get the negative comments and people bashing this post....but i truely would love to talk to women who are in the same position as i am....i cant talk to my friends or family....i cant talk to him, he just twists shit and makes me miserable but i stay...i stay...idk why but i stay

Posted by Anonymous on Sep. 20, 2012 at 8:33 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 13 on Sep. 20, 2012 at 9:22 AM

I stay, unhappily. Due to his excessive drinking. That is the only thing I am not OK with. He stopped for a while but of course has gone back to his old ways. I am working on making a way to leave, it is just going to take me some time to get the financial aspect taken care of.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 20, 2012 at 9:23 AM

OMG i feel like u. i swear i do...i wish this damn cm wasnt so petty bc i would totally talk to u for hours,...sigh

Quoting Anonymous:

Its so complicated because so many things have happened. I wish he wasn't in my life. Yes its so easy for people to say "leave him" but its just not that easy.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 20, 2012 at 9:23 AM

im happy for u

Quoting kidlover2:

I used to be & then he left. My life was hard but I was soooo much happier and so were the kids. It took me over a year to "grow up" and find a man that was respectful and caring and actually likes being around me. I'm a thousand times better off.


brettsmomma
by ~Tammie~ on Sep. 20, 2012 at 9:23 AM

That used to be me. We didn't have children but I felt this obligation to stay.. So I did for 13 years. Change is hard. Its uncomfortable stepping out of what you know and can count on to something new and random. 

I can tell you that taking the initiative and leaving was the best decision I have ever made for myself. I was extremely scared and lonely that first year. But it got better. I found myself becoming the person I always knew I could be. 

6, almost 7, years later I couldn't be more happy and content. Im in the marriage I always dreamed my first could be. Im so freaking proud of myself and grateful that I did what I did. 


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 20, 2012 at 9:24 AM

im 28

Quoting Anonymous:

 luckly none of us have fb but I think he really thinks he can do no bad. He thinks its okay to go out an be wing man fo rhis cusin  but if I talk to any guys (even this kid who is like 16 ) i must be cheating . btw I im 22

Quoting Anonymous:

100% agree with u..im in the same boat....i have a couple friends but out of all things, he doesnt trust CAFEMOM so he wont keep me on his fb

Quoting Anonymous:

 i agree i think the times when its good it great but its seeems more times like my husband desnt like me honestly. some times i feel like im in love with who he was an wo i want him to be , if that makes sense . i also think he wants me to be some one  im not. I litterally have no friends becuase he freaks on me :O(

Quoting Anonymous:i agree

mine is EXTREMELY complicated too...i just wish i had an outlet or something irl i can go to....i know its wrong to be like this, with him and taking his crap but i cant get away..i dont need his money...but like u said he is good with the kids..i have lots of guilt also...how long are we going to be stuck like this? i feel like forever bc if i havent left by now with all the shit going on, ill never leave :(

Quoting Anonymous:

 i think i am an there is oonly one other person who know. my husband doesnt feel he does any thing wrong but right now I dont have any other optopn :O( I dont know if  he'll ever change but hes a great father an always has been its just me I generally think he doesnt like me. but we're pretty good on puttin ong a smle an pretending though. If he does care about me he sure the hell has a issue showing it. I dont know its extremly complicated an issues up but you would never know unless I told you.


 


 


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 20, 2012 at 9:24 AM

thats awesome

Quoting Bertha21:

Well one day we had a serious talk and realized we wanted to be together and give our son a happy life. We started doing nice things for each other daily, nothing big just little things that show we appreciate each other. We also don't fight about petty things anymore. He started communicating better, which helps a lot!

Quoting Anonymous:

  how did u work on things?

the kids part is complicated, but they arent his...no

Quoting Bertha21:

I know how you feel! He didn't abuse me physically or mentally, he was just always angry. He has HORRIBLE anger issues. We were in that rut (we both hated each other) for a year. We stayed together for our son, and we also loved each other just couldn't stand each other. We are in love and happier than ever now. It was just a long rut! Do you have kids together?



Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 20, 2012 at 9:25 AM

thank u so very much. its extremely lonely

Quoting Anonymous:

Not me. I am 2 years free from the chains of drug abuse and domestic violence. It was a long time coming. I pray you ladies find your inner strength and realize how much more you deserve. It breaks my heart to read these, knowing how hopeless and lonely it feels to be there. =/


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 20, 2012 at 9:25 AM

i will get there one day

Quoting brettsmomma:

That used to be me. We didn't have children but I felt this obligation to stay.. So I did for 13 years. Change is hard. Its uncomfortable stepping out of what you know and can count on to something new and random. 

I can tell you that taking the initiative and leaving was the best decision I have ever made for myself. I was extremely scared and lonely that first year. But it got better. I found myself becoming the person I always knew I could be. 

6, almost 7, years later I couldn't be more happy and content. Im in the marriage I always dreamed my first could be. Im so freaking proud of myself and grateful that I did what I did. 


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Sep. 20, 2012 at 9:26 AM

i hope u can find a way soon

Quoting Anonymous:

I stay, unhappily. Due to his excessive drinking. That is the only thing I am not OK with. He stopped for a while but of course has gone back to his old ways. I am working on making a way to leave, it is just going to take me some time to get the financial aspect taken care of.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 11 on Sep. 20, 2012 at 9:28 AM
Me too! I need to talk about it bc I'm at breaking point and I don't have anyone to share how I feel about it. Its so frustrating and hurts so bad at the same time.


Quoting Anonymous:

OMG i feel like u. i swear i do...i wish this damn cm wasnt so petty bc i would totally talk to u for hours,...sigh

Quoting Anonymous:

Its so complicated because so many things have happened. I wish he wasn't in my life. Yes its so easy for people to say "leave him" but its just not that easy.



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