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Edit -- Why the f*$# are YOU telling me to do with MY kid????

Thank you to the mothers who have replied to my questions without getting defensive or simply saying "mind your own business"....because of the mothers who have answered with their reasons, I can see there are reasons I haven't thought of (motion sickness that gets better when they are forward facing, space issues with their vehicle - the big seats won't fit rear facing - or having many carseats in the vehicle).   It was a post similar to this one that opened my eyes to the idea 'what do you mean?  I don't HAVE to turn my son forward facing when he turns one?"  I looked more into the topic and was able to make an informed decision for my family.  

My hope is that  maybe one new mother read this post and will think more about what she wants to do based on the information that is available.  When my son was reaching his first birthday, I had a friend who said "Oooh!  Now you can move his seat forward!  It is sooo exciting and fun for them!"  I know this is what a lot of new mothers hear.  Thankfully, I had watched the videos and read the facts about rear facing and replied to her "No.  I will keep him rear facing."  Even after I told her why, she thought it was 'weird'....but, I didn't care.  She was never one to research anything or be able to give real reasons for her decisions, other than 'just because'.  She had her youngest daughter in a booster seat before she was 3 1/2 and actually, with a nervous laugh, said "we don't really care about that stuff'.  To each their own.  Anyway - thanks for your insights.  I appreciate the time you took.    

I think it's funny when mothers say with pride and confidence "I moved my child forward facing before the legal limit and they survived".....and then they go on to say "oh yeah, they never got in a bad car accident".  What if they had?  (Apparently these mothers do not care about the possibility of another driver smashing into them)....Having your child 'survive' forward facing, yet never having been in a car accident, says nothing at all about how 'safe' he/she is as a "forward facing child".  It only says how lucky they (and you) were.

It is the parents who have forward faced their children too young -- who have lost their children in accidents where being rear facing may have made the difference between their child living or dying -- it is THOSE parents who are telling their stories and PLEADING with other parents to not make the same mistake they did.  Those parents are trying so hard to TEACH other parents and hope other parents will listen.  I can't believe so many parents just turn their heads the other way, ignore those tragedies, shrug their shoulders, and say "I know what's best, so save your stories for someone who gives a shit".  Such a shame.

Why do parents want to turn their children forward facing the second it is legal???  Why do parents turn their children forward facing BEFORE it is legal???


by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:08 PM
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skyes_mama
by Silver Member on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:37 PM
I know a family that as in a bad car wreck and their 4 month old rear facing baby died and the forward facing 1.5 year old lived.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:37 PM
And who the fuck are you to tell me what to do with MY kid?

MYODB.
singlemom1208
by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:38 PM
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Didn't you know? You're ALWAYS being judged. Everytime you leave the house. Someone is checking your kids' carseats and checking out what's in your buggy at the store. Don't forget, they're judging your clothes too.

Quoting armywife009:

Why do someone women feel the need to get up all in another mothers business?

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:38 PM
My sister turned her kids fwd. facing too young and they were preemies. She also put them in boosters WAY to young. Drives me nuts. However, it drives me equally as nuts when parents keep their kids rear facing too long and don't realize they are putting them in undo jeopardy also. Don't even get me started on the parents that keep their kids in 5 point harnesses past a normal age. Ugh.
dee1603
by Gold Member on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:38 PM
The fact that "you don't know" the answer to your last question shows that you, too, are ignorant. If said accident had happened, it might have actually been safer for your child to be forward facing rather than rear facing. Hence, mind your own damn business if you don't know.


Quoting one_on_the_way:



Quoting Anonymous:

Some children can't handle being backwards. It is very uncomfortable and they scream the parents choose what they feel is best for said child.

How is forward facing 'less' uncomfortable??  A car seat is uncomfortable in most ways.  

My son hated the sun in his eyes when he was rear facing.  I got a shade.  And, now that he is forward facing, he still gets sun in his eyes (even with a shade).

Rear facing.....my son had to bend his knees.  

Now that he is forward facing (and very tall for his age)...he still has to bend his knees.

However, when he was rear facing....and had some drunk idiot crossed the line and crash into us full-speed - I don't know....would he have been safer forward facing, or rear facing?  

Does comfort trump safety?


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tddncw2010
by Bronze Member on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:38 PM
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My son is almost 2 and still rear faing so I have no idea. I'll do everything possible to keep him safe in the car
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one_on_the_way
by Silver Member on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:39 PM
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Quoting MommyChristina1:

 We waited until the legal age limit, but ds was small and didn't meet the legal weight limit.  I was in a hurry to try every new thing with him, so I was pushing him along.  Now, I recognize how stupid it was.  At 5 1/2 he's still in a 5 point.  We were LUCKY, plain and simple.

I LOVE this reply.....

for some reason, some mothers feel that 'forward facing' is some sort of developmental milestone.  It is NOT!!!  

When it comes to safety, I wish I COULD BE REAR FACING....unfortunately they have not invented a way for me to drive my vehicle while being in the safest position possible (rear facing).  

I am thankful for the information others have shared with me regarding this topic....and will NEVER understand mothers who turn their heads from it.

tddncw2010
by Bronze Member on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:39 PM
That doesn't even make sense? How is keeping them rear facing longer harm them? Or keeping them in a 5 point?

Quoting Anonymous:

My sister turned her kids fwd. facing too young and they were preemies. She also put them in boosters WAY to young. Drives me nuts. However, it drives me equally as nuts when parents keep their kids rear facing too long and don't realize they are putting them in undo jeopardy also. Don't even get me started on the parents that keep their kids in 5 point harnesses past a normal age. Ugh.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:40 PM
Quoting Anonymous:

Some children can't handle being backwards. It is very uncomfortable and they scream the parents choose what they feel is best for said child.



Just because the kid screams doesn't mean it is not what is best for a child... Ever change a dirty diaper? Mmmmkay
HelloKitty86
by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:40 PM

Because god forbid someone care about someone else!  

Quoting armywife009:

Why do someone women feel the need to get up all in another mothers business?


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