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Edit -- Why the f*$# are YOU telling me to do with MY kid????

Thank you to the mothers who have replied to my questions without getting defensive or simply saying "mind your own business"....because of the mothers who have answered with their reasons, I can see there are reasons I haven't thought of (motion sickness that gets better when they are forward facing, space issues with their vehicle - the big seats won't fit rear facing - or having many carseats in the vehicle).   It was a post similar to this one that opened my eyes to the idea 'what do you mean?  I don't HAVE to turn my son forward facing when he turns one?"  I looked more into the topic and was able to make an informed decision for my family.  

My hope is that  maybe one new mother read this post and will think more about what she wants to do based on the information that is available.  When my son was reaching his first birthday, I had a friend who said "Oooh!  Now you can move his seat forward!  It is sooo exciting and fun for them!"  I know this is what a lot of new mothers hear.  Thankfully, I had watched the videos and read the facts about rear facing and replied to her "No.  I will keep him rear facing."  Even after I told her why, she thought it was 'weird'....but, I didn't care.  She was never one to research anything or be able to give real reasons for her decisions, other than 'just because'.  She had her youngest daughter in a booster seat before she was 3 1/2 and actually, with a nervous laugh, said "we don't really care about that stuff'.  To each their own.  Anyway - thanks for your insights.  I appreciate the time you took.    

I think it's funny when mothers say with pride and confidence "I moved my child forward facing before the legal limit and they survived".....and then they go on to say "oh yeah, they never got in a bad car accident".  What if they had?  (Apparently these mothers do not care about the possibility of another driver smashing into them)....Having your child 'survive' forward facing, yet never having been in a car accident, says nothing at all about how 'safe' he/she is as a "forward facing child".  It only says how lucky they (and you) were.

It is the parents who have forward faced their children too young -- who have lost their children in accidents where being rear facing may have made the difference between their child living or dying -- it is THOSE parents who are telling their stories and PLEADING with other parents to not make the same mistake they did.  Those parents are trying so hard to TEACH other parents and hope other parents will listen.  I can't believe so many parents just turn their heads the other way, ignore those tragedies, shrug their shoulders, and say "I know what's best, so save your stories for someone who gives a shit".  Such a shame.

Why do parents want to turn their children forward facing the second it is legal???  Why do parents turn their children forward facing BEFORE it is legal???


by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:08 PM
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krunchykorn
by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:40 PM
My son was 6months but that's the law here in aus
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erinsmom1964
by Gold Member on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:40 PM

Unfortunately many see it as a milestone.........like talking and walking.

minimo77
by Bronze Member on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:41 PM

I would say, some are just not aware. I dont know how, this day in age you can not be aware of car seat laws, but maybe people who have just moved here from another country and dont fully understand english? I have no idea.

one_on_the_way
by Silver Member on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:42 PM

How would it have been safer for my child?  

I have not yet seen anything to say that forward facing is MORE safe for my - or any - child.  Please share what you know.


Quoting dee1603:

The fact that "you don't know" the answer to your last question shows that you, too, are ignorant. If said accident had happened, it might have actually been safer for your child to be forward facing rather than rear facing. Hence, mind your own damn business if you don't know.


Quoting one_on_the_way:



Quoting Anonymous:

Some children can't handle being backwards. It is very uncomfortable and they scream the parents choose what they feel is best for said child.

How is forward facing 'less' uncomfortable??  A car seat is uncomfortable in most ways.  

My son hated the sun in his eyes when he was rear facing.  I got a shade.  And, now that he is forward facing, he still gets sun in his eyes (even with a shade).

Rear facing.....my son had to bend his knees.  

Now that he is forward facing (and very tall for his age)...he still has to bend his knees.

However, when he was rear facing....and had some drunk idiot crossed the line and crash into us full-speed - I don't know....would he have been safer forward facing, or rear facing?  

Does comfort trump safety?



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:43 PM
What do consider past a normal age? I'm just curious. A friend of mine lost her 3 yr old because was in a booster. His story was very publicized-kyle david miller. I'm not fanatical but my small DD is almost 5 and still in a 5 point.


Quoting Anonymous:

My sister turned her kids fwd. facing too young and they were preemies. She also put them in boosters WAY to young. Drives me nuts. However, it drives me equally as nuts when parents keep their kids rear facing too long and don't realize they are putting them in undo jeopardy also. Don't even get me started on the parents that keep their kids in 5 point harnesses past a normal age. Ugh.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:43 PM
Quoting tddncw2010:




Keeping a child who cannot stretch their legs rear facing is placing them in more danger. Kids in a 5 point are in more danger if they are older and I am talking 5, 6 and above because in an accident they are no more safe than if they were in a booster. However, if in an accident where they needed to get out quick, they wouldn't be able to.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:43 PM
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Guess what no on cares what others think and to some it's a milestone just stfu about it already btw my 15 month old is 19# and still rf but I have a friend who's 7 month old is already ff yes she knows it wrong but it isn't my Place to judge her decisiOns I informed her it was dangerous not my kid not my choice
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:43 PM
Guess what no on cares what others think and to some it's a milestone just stfu about it already btw my 15 month old is 19# and still rf but I have a friend who's 7 month old is already ff yes she knows it wrong but it isn't my Place to judge her decisiOns I informed her it was dangerous not my kid not my choice
armywife009
by Platinum Member on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:44 PM
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eye rolling

There is a difference between caring and just being a pushy, judgemental bitch.

Quoting HelloKitty86:

Because god forbid someone care about someone else!  

Quoting armywife009:

Why do someone women feel the need to get up all in another mothers business?



stormcloud
by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:44 PM
Thank you. Why do some mothers get so upset when other mothers look out for their kids safety? Why is doing it your way more important then common sense?

Quoting one_on_the_way:



Quoting armywife009:

Why do someone women feel the need to get up all in another mothers business?

Because some women care about all children's safety...even children who are not their own.  

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