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Edit -- Why the f*$# are YOU telling me to do with MY kid????

Thank you to the mothers who have replied to my questions without getting defensive or simply saying "mind your own business"....because of the mothers who have answered with their reasons, I can see there are reasons I haven't thought of (motion sickness that gets better when they are forward facing, space issues with their vehicle - the big seats won't fit rear facing - or having many carseats in the vehicle).   It was a post similar to this one that opened my eyes to the idea 'what do you mean?  I don't HAVE to turn my son forward facing when he turns one?"  I looked more into the topic and was able to make an informed decision for my family.  

My hope is that  maybe one new mother read this post and will think more about what she wants to do based on the information that is available.  When my son was reaching his first birthday, I had a friend who said "Oooh!  Now you can move his seat forward!  It is sooo exciting and fun for them!"  I know this is what a lot of new mothers hear.  Thankfully, I had watched the videos and read the facts about rear facing and replied to her "No.  I will keep him rear facing."  Even after I told her why, she thought it was 'weird'....but, I didn't care.  She was never one to research anything or be able to give real reasons for her decisions, other than 'just because'.  She had her youngest daughter in a booster seat before she was 3 1/2 and actually, with a nervous laugh, said "we don't really care about that stuff'.  To each their own.  Anyway - thanks for your insights.  I appreciate the time you took.    

I think it's funny when mothers say with pride and confidence "I moved my child forward facing before the legal limit and they survived".....and then they go on to say "oh yeah, they never got in a bad car accident".  What if they had?  (Apparently these mothers do not care about the possibility of another driver smashing into them)....Having your child 'survive' forward facing, yet never having been in a car accident, says nothing at all about how 'safe' he/she is as a "forward facing child".  It only says how lucky they (and you) were.

It is the parents who have forward faced their children too young -- who have lost their children in accidents where being rear facing may have made the difference between their child living or dying -- it is THOSE parents who are telling their stories and PLEADING with other parents to not make the same mistake they did.  Those parents are trying so hard to TEACH other parents and hope other parents will listen.  I can't believe so many parents just turn their heads the other way, ignore those tragedies, shrug their shoulders, and say "I know what's best, so save your stories for someone who gives a shit".  Such a shame.

Why do parents want to turn their children forward facing the second it is legal???  Why do parents turn their children forward facing BEFORE it is legal???

by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:08 PM
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by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:48 PM
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Quoting armywife009:

eye rolling

There is a difference between caring and just being a pushy, judgemental bitch.

Quoting HelloKitty86:

Because god forbid someone care about someone else!  

Quoting armywife009:

Why do someone women feel the need to get up all in another mothers business?

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by Anonymous 11 on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:49 PM
I agree. Many will say I do what is best for my family but research rf and ff, it isn't about your preference. It is all about safety. This is one argument that won't be won, too many people want to be right instead of being safe.
I'm sure the mother of the little boy sitting it he front seat then got into a little fender bender ithe mall parking lot thought she was doing what was best for her family but she didn't follow those safety rules and her poor, poor child was internally decapitated. He wasn't old enough to be in the front seat but he wasn't a baby. she ignored the warnings and research like so many do with car seats . The warnings, the labels, the laws, the recommendations and the research are all for your childs safety. The I rode on the top of the truck when I was young and I survived is luck and does relate to everyone that does this because someone will be a victim of an accident. will your child be safe in an accident or not is what you should be asking yourself.
by Emerald Member on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:50 PM
I never heard of this forward facing rear facing time limit till I came here. Some of us don't live in the US you know :O
by Platinum Member on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:50 PM

It's not that. It's the fact that these woman are constantly on this shit. I care about the safety of other kids, but I don't go on and on about it, like I am on some type of high horse. People who forward face, know the rules and the consequences if something happens (most anyway), but do it anyway because it is what they feel is best.

Quoting stormcloud:

Thank you. Why do some mothers get so upset when other mothers look out for their kids safety? Why is doing it your way more important then common sense?

Quoting one_on_the_way:

Quoting armywife009:

Why do someone women feel the need to get up all in another mothers business?

Because some women care about all children's safety...even children who are not their own.  

by Anonymous 4 on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:51 PM
Quoting Anonymous:

That makes sense. I know people who have their 60 pound kid in a 5 point. They meet well over the height and weight. Honestly though. It has more to do with height rather than weight as far as physics go. We just feel better when we have our itty bittys in a 5 point. If they are tall enough, the 5 point does nothing more than keep them in the seat. If they are not the kind of kid to wiggle out of a booster, the effect is the same.
by Anonymous 4 on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:53 PM
Quoting Anonymous:

I run an in home daycare, and I found out today that one of my parents has her 2 1/2 year old in a backless booster. I wanted to smack her. ugh!

That would have been my idiot sister...
by Anonymous 12 on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:53 PM

My daughter has asthma and there were times when she would stop breathing.  When she was rear facing, I couldn't see her to tell if she was okay or not.  Those stupid mirrors that you are supposed to put on the back of the seat to see the rear facing child don't work.  I still couldn't see her.  So, the doctor and I discussed it, and decided to turn her around early so that I could see her.  I couldn't have someone ride in back with her, because there was no one to do that.  It's just me.  

by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:53 PM

I think it's funny that women consider this to be something to be "judgemental" about. If I talk about the clothes you dress your baby in, the food you feed them, the television you let them watch, that's being judgemental. Stating that it's absolutely ridiculous to put a baby in a car forward facing when IT COULD MEAN THEIR LIFE is not "judgemental," it's begging and pleading people to wake the hell up.

Yeah, OP, I get what you're saying. Sometimes my family tries to persuade me to put me 11 month old forward facing because her legs are bent when she's rear facing, and love to say "well, I put yall in forward and nothing bad happened," it's like WELL NO DUH. You never got in a wreck! I'll let my baby be uncomfortable if it saves her life. Thank you.

by Silver Member on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:53 PM

Quoting skyes_mama:

I know a family that as in a bad car wreck and their 4 month old rear facing baby died and the forward facing 1.5 year old lived.

What a horrible tragedy.  Very sad.

Based on this very sad you think we should then make all babies and children forward facing?  It seems from this that forward facing....across the safer. ??

What do you think?

by Anonymous 6 on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:56 PM
First of all don't spell like an idiot. It's a poor choice but not my business

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:

Guess what no on cares what others think and to some it's a milestone just stfu about it already btw my 15 month old is 19# and still rf but I have a friend who's 7 month old is already ff yes she knows it wrong but it isn't my Place to judge her decisiOns I informed her it was dangerous not my kid not my choice

You don't have to judge to tell her she is STOOOOOOPID! It is a fact, not a judgement.

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