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Edit -- Why the f*$# are YOU telling me to do with MY kid????

Thank you to the mothers who have replied to my questions without getting defensive or simply saying "mind your own business"....because of the mothers who have answered with their reasons, I can see there are reasons I haven't thought of (motion sickness that gets better when they are forward facing, space issues with their vehicle - the big seats won't fit rear facing - or having many carseats in the vehicle).   It was a post similar to this one that opened my eyes to the idea 'what do you mean?  I don't HAVE to turn my son forward facing when he turns one?"  I looked more into the topic and was able to make an informed decision for my family.  

My hope is that  maybe one new mother read this post and will think more about what she wants to do based on the information that is available.  When my son was reaching his first birthday, I had a friend who said "Oooh!  Now you can move his seat forward!  It is sooo exciting and fun for them!"  I know this is what a lot of new mothers hear.  Thankfully, I had watched the videos and read the facts about rear facing and replied to her "No.  I will keep him rear facing."  Even after I told her why, she thought it was 'weird'....but, I didn't care.  She was never one to research anything or be able to give real reasons for her decisions, other than 'just because'.  She had her youngest daughter in a booster seat before she was 3 1/2 and actually, with a nervous laugh, said "we don't really care about that stuff'.  To each their own.  Anyway - thanks for your insights.  I appreciate the time you took.    

I think it's funny when mothers say with pride and confidence "I moved my child forward facing before the legal limit and they survived".....and then they go on to say "oh yeah, they never got in a bad car accident".  What if they had?  (Apparently these mothers do not care about the possibility of another driver smashing into them)....Having your child 'survive' forward facing, yet never having been in a car accident, says nothing at all about how 'safe' he/she is as a "forward facing child".  It only says how lucky they (and you) were.

It is the parents who have forward faced their children too young -- who have lost their children in accidents where being rear facing may have made the difference between their child living or dying -- it is THOSE parents who are telling their stories and PLEADING with other parents to not make the same mistake they did.  Those parents are trying so hard to TEACH other parents and hope other parents will listen.  I can't believe so many parents just turn their heads the other way, ignore those tragedies, shrug their shoulders, and say "I know what's best, so save your stories for someone who gives a shit".  Such a shame.

Why do parents want to turn their children forward facing the second it is legal???  Why do parents turn their children forward facing BEFORE it is legal???

by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:08 PM
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by Platinum Member on Sep. 21, 2012 at 11:10 PM

I'm talking about the women on Cafemom in general, these women just go on and on.

Fine share your advice, but there is no need to down mothers who don't share your same sanctimommy ideals.

I know best, because they are my children. You do what's best for yours.

Quoting one_on_the_way:

This is the first post I have made about this.....and I have not gone 'on and on' about it.  Why do you think I have gone on and on about it???

If one person says something....and then another....and then another....and then another.....it is not "I go on and on and on"....it is ONE mother sharing with other mothers what she is happy she knows about...and then another mother sharing....and another mother sharing.....it is NOT "I'm on a high horse" kind of thing.

If YOU know the information and facts about RF vs FF....and feel it is BEST for your child to FF as soon as possible....then move on.  Your decision is made.  You know best. (based on what, I don't know...but you know,and that is good enough). 

Quoting armywife009:

It's not that. It's the fact that these woman are constantly on this shit. I care about the safety of other kids, but I don't go on and on about it, like I am on some type of high horse. People who forward face, know the rules and the consequences if something happens (most anyway), but do it anyway because it is what they feel is best.

Quoting stormcloud:

Thank you. Why do some mothers get so upset when other mothers look out for their kids safety? Why is doing it your way more important then common sense?

Quoting one_on_the_way:

Quoting armywife009:

Why do someone women feel the need to get up all in another mothers business?

Because some women care about all children's safety...even children who are not their own.  

by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 11:11 PM

I turned mine to foward facing at 18 months. I didnt like it but they were WAY too big to fit in the rear facing seat. We didnt own our own car then so we hardly ever ued the seats anyway.

by Anonymous 15 on Sep. 21, 2012 at 11:11 PM

Really? It's called "motion sickness".

Quoting Anonymous:

Wtf? Never heard such a thing.

Quoting Kaelaasmom:

Quoting one_on_the_way:

Quoting Kaelaasmom:

Quoting Anonymous:

Some children can't handle being backwards. It is very uncomfortable and they scream the parents choose what they feel is best for said child.

Or they vomit violently from facing backwards.

When does that start?

My daughter started around 6 months. It took us until she was 11 months to figure out it was facing the rear of the car. I have the same issue. I could never ride in the rear facing seat of my parents' station wagon.

by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 11:12 PM
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Idk. Why are some anti-bfing? Why are some anti-spanking and others pro-spanking? Why do some moms give their kids sweets while others scoff at the idea?

Questions that never have a real answer.

by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 11:12 PM
That's exactly why we don't even use carseats!

Quoting TheMaskedMommy:

There is NO SAFE PLACE in a car.  You all argue forward/backward/upside down/inside out.... "my way is safer" "my way is better" "women who do this should have their kids taken away" "Blah blah blah."  I'm sick of reading about it.  I am my child's mother.  Not you, not the fedral government, not the state.  I will choose, based on common sense and research, what is best for my child.  In truth, it does not matter where you are in a car, not does it matter how large of small you are, if it is your time, then it is your time.  No amount of planning, safety equipment, or knowledge is going to save you.  There is no "what if" there is only "what is."

You can go on judging others beause they don't do things your way... but honestly, I'm begining to think CM is nothing but a breeding ground for a new type of racism.  Let the Mommy Wars begin... may the odds be ever in your favor....

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by Kay on Sep. 21, 2012 at 11:12 PM

My oldest was 1yr. he was too tall could hardly even sit indian style, the doc informed me that keeping them rear facing too long while they are too tall could harm them... miss-shape their legs, if in a crash break their legs...and that was not something I was willing to risk, so we turned him forward in a 5 point harness seat, with the nice padding around the head and shoulders( you know the ones I'm talking about?) My youngest was only 10 months for the same reason I have very tall kids. my son at 5 1/2 is already 4 1./2 ft. tall...

by Platinum Member on Sep. 21, 2012 at 11:12 PM

How exactly do they do that? So because you (general) see a mommy, of a what you presume to be a small child, forward facing him/her, it's out there so it makes it your business?

Quoting Anonymous:

Because...wait for it They out their business out there.

Quoting armywife009:

Why do some women feel the need to get up all in another mothers business?

by Silver Member on Sep. 21, 2012 at 11:13 PM

Quoting kate80:

Shit. I wonder the same thing about people who say they don't vaccinate. But hey, their kid didn't get polio.

I'm starting to feel like parents who don't care about car seats and forward facing and rear facing should just hold their kids in their lap.  

I bet their kids would survive.

by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 11:13 PM
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Not this bullshit again....
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by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 11:14 PM
Ratios. It's all a gamble.
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