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Edit -- Why the f*$# are YOU telling me to do with MY kid????

Thank you to the mothers who have replied to my questions without getting defensive or simply saying "mind your own business"....because of the mothers who have answered with their reasons, I can see there are reasons I haven't thought of (motion sickness that gets better when they are forward facing, space issues with their vehicle - the big seats won't fit rear facing - or having many carseats in the vehicle).   It was a post similar to this one that opened my eyes to the idea 'what do you mean?  I don't HAVE to turn my son forward facing when he turns one?"  I looked more into the topic and was able to make an informed decision for my family.  

My hope is that  maybe one new mother read this post and will think more about what she wants to do based on the information that is available.  When my son was reaching his first birthday, I had a friend who said "Oooh!  Now you can move his seat forward!  It is sooo exciting and fun for them!"  I know this is what a lot of new mothers hear.  Thankfully, I had watched the videos and read the facts about rear facing and replied to her "No.  I will keep him rear facing."  Even after I told her why, she thought it was 'weird'....but, I didn't care.  She was never one to research anything or be able to give real reasons for her decisions, other than 'just because'.  She had her youngest daughter in a booster seat before she was 3 1/2 and actually, with a nervous laugh, said "we don't really care about that stuff'.  To each their own.  Anyway - thanks for your insights.  I appreciate the time you took.    

I think it's funny when mothers say with pride and confidence "I moved my child forward facing before the legal limit and they survived".....and then they go on to say "oh yeah, they never got in a bad car accident".  What if they had?  (Apparently these mothers do not care about the possibility of another driver smashing into them)....Having your child 'survive' forward facing, yet never having been in a car accident, says nothing at all about how 'safe' he/she is as a "forward facing child".  It only says how lucky they (and you) were.

It is the parents who have forward faced their children too young -- who have lost their children in accidents where being rear facing may have made the difference between their child living or dying -- it is THOSE parents who are telling their stories and PLEADING with other parents to not make the same mistake they did.  Those parents are trying so hard to TEACH other parents and hope other parents will listen.  I can't believe so many parents just turn their heads the other way, ignore those tragedies, shrug their shoulders, and say "I know what's best, so save your stories for someone who gives a shit".  Such a shame.

Why do parents want to turn their children forward facing the second it is legal???  Why do parents turn their children forward facing BEFORE it is legal???


by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:08 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Sep. 21, 2012 at 11:26 PM
Do you know a broken leg is the most common forward facing injury?

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting areyouatroll:






If you say so. ;-)
BeAmour
by Tonya on Sep. 21, 2012 at 11:26 PM
motion sickness can begin at birth.

Riding backwards tricks your medulla and it geta confused with the motion and a result can be vomitting, dizziness, fatigue, headaches, nausea.

A lot of the patients in the back of the ambulance get motion sickness. We've gotten into the habit of asking if they have motion sickness be it car/boat or have ever rode or flown backwards and what their reaction was. It helps us be prepared for those signs to appear and help the patient with dignity by having a bin readily available and make sure it's not new to their cheif complaint.


Quoting one_on_the_way:



Quoting Kaelaasmom:


Quoting Anonymous:

Some children can't handle being backwards. It is very uncomfortable and they scream the parents choose what they feel is best for said child.

Or they vomit violently from facing backwards.

When does that start?

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Godgaveme4
by Gold Member on Sep. 21, 2012 at 11:27 PM

 

Quoting one_on_the_way:

 

Quoting Godgaveme4:

 

Quoting one_on_the_way:

 

Quoting Godgaveme4:

 We could not wait to turn our kiddos.  It was nice to see their smiling faces.

MAY is the operative word in this.  It may have made a difference but no one really knows for sure.  No accident is ever exactly the same.  There are so many different variables.  The kind of car, the kind of car seats, the driver, the tires, brakes, road, the other car involved, the weather, environment, etc.

Well then, forward face your child from birth on....if it all comes down to 'may' and 'every accident is different', then why does ANYONE really care one way or another?

Hold them in your lap - hell, that's what our grandparents did.

 I am sure many would if the government did not feel the need to parent it's citizens... but tha is a subject for a different post.

We have a habit of looking at a disaster or accident and making a decision for all about how we will save lives.  Look at SIDs.  Sleep on their back...sleep on their tummy...sleep on their side...rotate them continuously...it changes over and over again.  The thing is that no one knows the cause.  All of the cases have been different and have different variables like enviroment, genetics, food, etc.  The same goes for accidents.

So while we do all we can to prevent an accident on our part we do not know if anthing will actually protect or save a persons life during one.

I can think of a couple scenarios that rear facing would not be safe for a child.  In the case of a car catching on fire or plunging into water.  I like to know thatI can or could have reached back and unbuckled my kids for a speedy escape.  If they rear face it would be difficult to unbuckle them.  But that is just how i feel.

Why do you think the government (laws) require babies are in carseats?  

 I know why there are the laws.  I just do not agree with a nanny state.  And those laws are part of the nanny state.

AquarianPath
by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 11:27 PM

 That's fucking creepy............... but , oh so true. How sad. :/

Quoting singlemom1208:

Didn't you know? You're ALWAYS being judged. Everytime you leave the house. Someone is checking your kids' carseats and checking out what's in your buggy at the store. Don't forget, they're judging your clothes too.

Quoting armywife009:

Why do someone women feel the need to get up all in another mothers business?

 

3babiesofmyown
by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 11:28 PM
My first 2 hit the legal height and weight limits by 1 yr. maye sooner. I did keep them rf a little longer but not much. Now I know better and will keep dd rf longer. at the time I didn't realize it wasn't about height and weight.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Sep. 21, 2012 at 11:31 PM
Quoting BeAmour:


So true. However, motion sickness isn't going to kill a kid. My ds had it from day 1 and still does at 9. Guess what? Even though the PCS from CA to MT sucked, I figured out the issue and gave her Dramamine. I sure as shit didn't turn her around fwd facing and risk other issues even with her heart and apnea monitor that was going off all the time. I pulled over. It is what was best. Not convenient.

PS. Yes. Her heart and apnea monitor went off before giving her Dramamine. All.the.time.
TheMrs407
by Ruby Member on Sep. 21, 2012 at 11:33 PM
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DD will RF until she can drive! Okay, that's our joke...but she will go to preschool RF.
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one_on_the_way
by Silver Member on Sep. 21, 2012 at 11:33 PM


Quoting Godgaveme4:

 

Quoting one_on_the_way:


Quoting Godgaveme4:

 

Quoting one_on_the_way:


Quoting Godgaveme4:

 We could not wait to turn our kiddos.  It was nice to see their smiling faces.

MAY is the operative word in this.  It may have made a difference but no one really knows for sure.  No accident is ever exactly the same.  There are so many different variables.  The kind of car, the kind of car seats, the driver, the tires, brakes, road, the other car involved, the weather, environment, etc.

Well then, forward face your child from birth on....if it all comes down to 'may' and 'every accident is different', then why does ANYONE really care one way or another?

Hold them in your lap - hell, that's what our grandparents did.

 I am sure many would if the government did not feel the need to parent it's citizens... but tha is a subject for a different post.

We have a habit of looking at a disaster or accident and making a decision for all about how we will save lives.  Look at SIDs.  Sleep on their back...sleep on their tummy...sleep on their side...rotate them continuously...it changes over and over again.  The thing is that no one knows the cause.  All of the cases have been different and have different variables like enviroment, genetics, food, etc.  The same goes for accidents.

So while we do all we can to prevent an accident on our part we do not know if anthing will actually protect or save a persons life during one.

I can think of a couple scenarios that rear facing would not be safe for a child.  In the case of a car catching on fire or plunging into water.  I like to know thatI can or could have reached back and unbuckled my kids for a speedy escape.  If they rear face it would be difficult to unbuckle them.  But that is just how i feel.

Why do you think the government (laws) require babies are in carseats?  

 I know why there are the laws.  I just do not agree with a nanny state.  And those laws are part of the nanny state.

Laws to rear face until 1 yr and 20 lbs is a nanny state?

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Sep. 21, 2012 at 11:34 PM
Quoting one_on_the_way:




My three year old is ff and chooses to sit with his legs bent 90% of the time in "criss cross applesauce."
Sassy762
by CAFE SASSY HBIC on Sep. 21, 2012 at 11:35 PM
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