My DH and I have been together for nine years (four years dating, one year engaged, four years married). I grew up in a house that always had pets and I love animals. My DH knows this. He is not really a pet person. He is more indifferent but prefers no pets. Before we got married I told him that I wanted pets, that he knew I loved animals, and that he should think about that before agreeing to marry me because I WILL have a pet.
Fast forward to now. I would like a dog. Just one. We don't have any other animals and I would really, really like one. He keeps telling me no, we can't have a dog. Or maybe later. I waited four years and two kids in to ask for a dog. WTF?
Am I wrong to be upset by this? I know that it is trivial, in the grand scheme of things, but it is my life too.
*Ok, I'm going to *clarify* (sorry) a little bit. My DH works a decent job, 8-4. I'm a SAHM. He comes home and heads right upstairs to be on the computer. I've accepted this. He smokes (outside the house), even after promising me he would quite numerous times. I hate that but I have accepted it. He likes his beer, a little much in my opinion, and I have accepted that. We own a home, no renting, with a backyard. I have already told him that I would be the one training the dog and walking it and cleaning up after it. I actually didn't plan to get a puppy, I was going to adopt from a shelter or take one that someone is trying to "get rid of", so there wouldn't be any crate training or potty training needed.
**No allergies. My DH doesn't hate dogs, in general, but he DOES hate small dogs. He says he doesn't want one because it is too much work and he doesn't want to have to find a sitter for the dog if we go away for a vacation. His brother and SIL got a dog when they were just married and we never saw them anymore because they always had to leave get togethers early to "take care of the dog". He doesn't want that to be us.
I'd be pissed.
I'd also go get a dog regardless of how he feels about it.
Get a dog! /: You're both adults, and if you want one, you should get one. You warned him (remind him of that), and why should he be able to dictate your decisions?
Sit down, look at breeds together. Compromise. Try to find a dog that suits you - maybe he'll be easier convinced if you find a breed that doesn't shed and doesn't require as much attention? (:
I am in the same boat except I hate pets. My husband insisted so we got a dog and now I resent it so much! The constant cleaning required, the time, the money. Not to mention I am severely allergic...
I wish we never got this animal. My husband and I fight constantly about it. I would say if both of you don't 100% want it, don't get it.
At what age should I tell my son dh is not his bio dad?
- Oostera
on Sep. 23, 2012 at 10:00 AM