Edit in Red - My dh is glad I miscarried our baby!!!

[Anonymous]

I went to the ER last night because I woke up bleeding severely. After some tests and us I was told that I had lost the baby. I was hysterical, but I won't go into that
When we got home my dh hugs me and says "look at it this way, now you have one less thing to worry about" I whirled around slapped him and ran into the house and locked myself in the bedroom.

He has come to the door, said he was crying and saying he was sorry and just said the wrong thing, but I'm just so mad!

What would you do?

 

First off, I did overreact. Of course he isn't happy about it. I know I shouldn't have slapped him and thank God he is a real man and would never hit a woman (even if she hit him first). 

We sent the kids to my mom's house, she lives down the street.  We talked and thought it would be good for both of us to attend some group therapy for ppl that are going through the same thing. I apologized profusely for raising a hand to him and he forgave me.  He said that I did the wrong thing just as he said the wrong thing.  I've never had a miscarriage before and I was really upset. I was wrong though

[indymom72]

I'm very sorry for your loss.  Have you had a lot on your plate?  Is that why he said that?

[The_Doodle]

Some people have the great gift of putting their foot in their mouth. Sounds like he was trying to make you feel better and it backfired. I'd accept his apology.

[AngeLnChainZ]

Guys are notorious for saying stupid shit at the worse times, even though they mean well. I'm sure it's a tough time for him as well, he just doesn't know how to express it. Sorry for your loss.

[tarakay0417]

I am so sorry for your loss. I would be pissed at my dh.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Quoting indymom72:

I'm very sorry for your loss.  Have you had a lot on your plate?  Is that why he said that?

I have 3 other kids and it has been a very difficult and scary first trimester, so maybe that's why

[lucky2Beeme]

I'm sorry and I understand the pain you are in. I think what he said was stupid. men are some times. Open the door and talk with him. its times like this you turn towards one another not away. Hugs momma. I'm sorry.

[LovelyJay512]

Quoting AngeLnChainZ:

Guys are notorious for saying stupid shit at the worse times, even though they mean well. I'm sure it's a tough time for him as well, he just doesn't know how to express it. Sorry for your loss.

[Anonymous]

I know how you feel. I started bleeding when I was in my first trimester with our first child. I was worried and upset and he said "oh well. Whatever happens happens". I did not miscarry, but I was so mand at his insensitive comments. 

Men just don't get it.

I miscarried our second child, and he said " it wasn't even a baby yet. I don't get why you're so upset"

I don't think that men feel an attachment to our unborn babies the way we do. 

I am so sorry for your loss, mama. ((Hugs))

[PinkWink]

I don't think that means he's GLAD you miscarried.

[indymom72]

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting indymom72:

I'm very sorry for your loss.  Have you had a lot on your plate?  Is that why he said that?

I have 3 other kids and it has been a very difficult and scary first trimester, so maybe that's why

Yeah, it doesn't make it right..it was still a bonehead thing for him to say.  Give him a hug and try to make up.  You have enough sadness today.  Again, I'm sooo sorry..hugs!!