My dh and his ex have 2 kids. She is on disability and gets cs that is her only income. He pays 650 a month in cs. She thinks my dh should help with school clothes and supplies as well as any extra curricular activities the children choose like the yongest wants to play baseball. Its 75 fee to play plus you have to buy cleats, pants, socks, belt, bat, glove, batting helmet and bat bag. She says she cant afford to pay it all and wants him to pay half. My dh never sees the kids and rarely talks to them and we live in the same town. We dont see them because we are just busy and its upsetting to him when he has to see them or deal with his ex. Should we pay half on school stuff and sports?
If he won't be there physically and emotionally, at least be there financially.
What a shame.
Interesting so it's either following the court order of every other weekend visitation or nothing.
Quoting Anonymous:
That is the only way she will let him see them is if he agrees to see them every other weekend. She wont allow us to see them when we are available.
Quoting smurfbitebug:
Does she intentionally keep them from him, or is he free to pick them up when he is scheduled to do so.. he just doesn't?
Quoting Anonymous:
Yes the last time he saw them was back late May they came over for a couple of hours. The only reason she allowed them to come that afternoon was because she had a dr appt and couldnt find or afford to pay a baby sitter like she usually does. So we agreed they could come for two hours. After the visit my dh ended up in the hospital because he had a break down because he was so upset after seeing the children.
Quoting LeahJ:
I'm sorry....did you just say that IT'S UPSETTING TO HIM WHEN HE HAS TO SEE THEM?!?!?!?
Uh, yeah. Paying for their sports gear is the least he can do given that he pretty much sucks at being a dad.
If you can afford it, then yes you should pay half of it. I know I wouldn't want my step children or children to go without anything. I would work a second job if it ment they could play that sport.
Quoting Anonymous:Interesting so it's either following the court order of every other weekend visitation or nothing.
Quoting Anonymous:
That is the only way she will let him see them is if he agrees to see them every other weekend. She wont allow us to see them when we are available.
Quoting smurfbitebug:
Does she intentionally keep them from him, or is he free to pick them up when he is scheduled to do so.. he just doesn't?
Quoting Anonymous:
Yes the last time he saw them was back late May they came over for a couple of hours. The only reason she allowed them to come that afternoon was because she had a dr appt and couldnt find or afford to pay a baby sitter like she usually does. So we agreed they could come for two hours. After the visit my dh ended up in the hospital because he had a break down because he was so upset after seeing the children.
Quoting LeahJ:
I'm sorry....did you just say that IT'S UPSETTING TO HIM WHEN HE HAS TO SEE THEM?!?!?!?
Uh, yeah. Paying for their sports gear is the least he can do given that he pretty much sucks at being a dad.
My ex pays for half of the extras for the kids we have together. CS goes towards their everyday expenses. I say pay half and then get in those kids lives and stay there
Do you ever get hit on even looking a mess?
Why inflict this silly cosmetic pain on a baby!?!