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Traumatic Birth

Anonymous
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I am SO angry that I was robbed of the birth experience I wanted.

I did my research, I was educated, prepared , I made my wishes well known from the beginning. I should've change doctors offices .

I believe this is mostly why I've struggled with post partum depression. Three times I've been robbed, lied to, and taken advantage of by people in the medical profession. Ultimately it was not for mine or my baby's well being but for THEIR convenience.

19 months later I am still struggling with the pain, hurt, and anger. The regret. My next birth has got to be my healing.

I will have an unassisted birth before I ever step foot inside an OB's office again. And to think I once sang their praises! HA! The plan is to hire a midwife and birth my baby at home. But if for whatever reason that did not go through, unassisted would be our next step.

My heart breaks for all the mama's who are being lied to, mistreated, or only being treated like a number. It really does have an affect on mama and baby's relationship.
Posted by Anonymous on Sep. 29, 2012 at 2:51 PM
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GirlWSemiAuto
by on Sep. 29, 2012 at 2:52 PM
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Are you in counseling?
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Sep. 29, 2012 at 2:54 PM
This sounds like when I had my son. Never again will I let them lie to me.
Toxic.Stardust
by on Sep. 29, 2012 at 2:54 PM
How was it traumatic, what happened?
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Ber-Lynn
by Count Me In on Sep. 29, 2012 at 2:55 PM
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Mine didn't go as planned and I'm okay with that. I am just happy my daughter and I are alive.
LovelyMommy24
by on Sep. 29, 2012 at 2:55 PM
What happened?
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bcoll
by Brandi on Sep. 29, 2012 at 2:55 PM

I'm sorry you've had bad experiences mama.

Peytonsmom6308
by Gold Member on Sep. 29, 2012 at 2:57 PM
What went wrong?
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mommy_me
by ~The Three B's~ on Sep. 29, 2012 at 2:57 PM

 Im sorry

mrsbrimer
by on Sep. 29, 2012 at 2:57 PM
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Not once have I thought so poorly of someone who's way more educated than I am. Not once have I thought I knew what was better for me than a licensed professional.
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CheyanneW
by on Sep. 29, 2012 at 2:57 PM
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I don't think birth is something that should have a strict plan.  These things don't always go the way you want. I think the only people that go through depression about their birth plan are those that make too many plans. 

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