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My ex really asked me to let him stop paying child support UPDATE

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Yesterday, when my ex picked up the kids (we have 2 together) he had them go to the car and asked to speak with me. He said that his wife got laid off 2 months ago and hasn't been able to find a new job. He said they have it very hard financially because now he is supporting him, her and her 2 kids on his own, the only income she now has is the child support from her ex. I said, "well sorry, that sucks but why are you telling me this". He said that he needs me let him off the hook for child support, he pays $967 a month for the 2 kids. I said "so let me get this straight, you want to get out of supporting YOUR CHILDREN so that you can support your wife and her kids, no, if you don't pay every dime you owe, I will file a failure to pay motion." Seriously, I couldn't believe that he would even ask that. He said if he has to keep paying child support, they will have to more and her kids will have to move schools, again that sucks but it's not my  problem.

My ex dropped the kids at home last night and said "since YOU won't let me stop paying my child support and we still have 5 months left on our lease, we are screwed." He said it won't help that much to have her kids go live with her ex because then she wouldn't get child support and would have to pay something (it wouldn't be a lot because she isn't working but it would be something) and they are still in the same place so it's not like the kids being gone would let them get a smaller place. I said "listen your wife and her kids aren't your legal responsibility, our kids are so they should be the FIRST people you support. If it's really that bad tell her to get a fast food job or something but our kids have 2 employed parents, they should have to go without because your wife lost her job.

Posted by Anonymous on Sep. 29, 2012 at 3:31 PM
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Lizard_Lina
by on Oct. 1, 2012 at 8:13 PM
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That was done very nicely I would say. Just because he married and got a new built in family does not negate the fact that he had previous obligations.
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Lizard_Lina
by on Oct. 1, 2012 at 8:17 PM
I missed the part where op says she uses the money on herself. Is there a quote I missed?


Quoting Anonymous:

He isn't asking to stop supporting them forever. He is asking for you to work with him. Imagine that, he actually thought you could act like a sensible adult.



Maybe if YOU lived within your means and didn't rely on child support to keep up your lifestyle it wouldn't be an issue.




Quoting Anonymous:

Please, explain to me how it's greedy for me to expect the father of my children to help financially support them BEFORE he support children who aren't his. Nothing bitter about that. Me and my ex aren't friends but we come together to do what's best for our kids, that includes both of us financially supporting them



Quoting Anonymous:

You're greedy and bitter. If I ever get divorced you are all the things I will strive not to be. I'm done with you.








Quoting Anonymous:





Quoting Anonymous:

I hope he takes your greedy ass to court and has it lowered.

Yeah, I want my kid's father to do his share to support them before he supports children who aren't his. If he takes me to court, it would probably get raised since he has gotten a raise but there is nothing in our situation that would lower it. So if he does take me, at the very worst, I'll walk out with the same child support order I have now and he'll look like an ass, at the best, he'll be ordered more money and look like a HUGE ass but his attorney already told him the judge won't lower it because his income hasn't gone down







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skymama10
by Silver Member on Oct. 1, 2012 at 8:20 PM
If I got child support and it was almost a thousand dollars I'd agree to lower it for a little while.
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notjstanothrmom
by Ruby Member on Oct. 1, 2012 at 8:22 PM
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I think you did the right thing. It sucks to be in his position but its not your fault or your kids.

angie729
by Ruby Member on Oct. 1, 2012 at 8:23 PM
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It just amazes me at how men think that their new wife and step kids come before their own biological children that they brought into this world.

Yellowlily333
by Gold Member on Oct. 1, 2012 at 8:26 PM
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I agree. His kids come before his wife and her kids!
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raschwittay
by Silver Member on Oct. 1, 2012 at 8:26 PM
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you are a smart woman! my baby daddy asked that. but holy shit 967! good for you. i get 300 and baby daddy works for the county. our legal system sucks

KColeman90
by Bronze Member on Oct. 1, 2012 at 8:26 PM

 It is sad and I would feel for them truely but that doesn't mean that he's off the hook why can't he find a job?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Oct. 1, 2012 at 9:05 PM
I missed the part where you needed to be a bitch and involve yourself in a conversation not related to you. Oh wait, that's just you huh. How unfortunate.


Quoting Lizard_Lina:

I missed the part where op says she uses the money on herself. Is there a quote I missed?




Quoting Anonymous:

He isn't asking to stop supporting them forever. He is asking for you to work with him. Imagine that, he actually thought you could act like a sensible adult.





Maybe if YOU lived within your means and didn't rely on child support to keep up your lifestyle it wouldn't be an issue.






Quoting Anonymous:

Please, explain to me how it's greedy for me to expect the father of my children to help financially support them BEFORE he support children who aren't his. Nothing bitter about that. Me and my ex aren't friends but we come together to do what's best for our kids, that includes both of us financially supporting them




Quoting Anonymous:

You're greedy and bitter. If I ever get divorced you are all the things I will strive not to be. I'm done with you.











Quoting Anonymous:






Quoting Anonymous:

I hope he takes your greedy ass to court and has it lowered.

Yeah, I want my kid's father to do his share to support them before he supports children who aren't his. If he takes me to court, it would probably get raised since he has gotten a raise but there is nothing in our situation that would lower it. So if he does take me, at the very worst, I'll walk out with the same child support order I have now and he'll look like an ass, at the best, he'll be ordered more money and look like a HUGE ass but his attorney already told him the judge won't lower it because his income hasn't gone down









BekkieBoodle
by on Oct. 1, 2012 at 9:06 PM
I agree with you.
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