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would you judge this woman?

lets say you know a woman, she used to have problem with drugs, after staying clean for a year, her bf beats her up and leaves her (because she doesn't approve of him drinking) alone with 2 kids, she spirals into depression, and ends up leaving her kids with her mom and takes off and relapses.

2 months into her relapse, she realises she is pregnant, by her druggie bf. 

scared to go home, ashamed of what she has done, she quits drugs on her own, tells her mom everything is ok, and stays with the loser bf.

then one night, he tries to kill her and her unborn child.

she manages to escape, and ends up couch surfing, because there is no family near enough to help her. he promises to change and begs her forgivness, sick of couch surfing, she goes back.

a month later, he tries to kill her again. 

this time,she calls the police and puts him in jail, packs her bags, and goes home to her mothers, a 3 day drive away. 

her life is in flux, she is a recovering addict (she quit when she found out about the baby) and has 2 children already, 1 whom her mother has raised since she was 15, and another who she placed with her mom while she relapsed. 

determined to stay clean and be a good mom, she makes a hard choice, to learn to be a mother to the 2 children she already has, and focus on recovery, and in order to do that, she decides that she needs to put the child she is carrying up for adoption, just in case she cannot stay clean.

she finds the perfect family, a nice young couple, and the adoption process begins. 

she is scared the stress of a new baby along with learning to be a mother again will be too much for her, she is scared of relapsing. she is scared of putting her kids through hell. again. so she gives her little baby girl up, and keeps working on herself. 

she meets a really nice farm boy, he loves her despite her faults, they meet when she is 7 months preg with the baby she is giving up.

he stands by her, and is there for her and loves her. he treats her children as her own, and is supportive of her decision regarding adoption.

5 years later, they are still together, she is still clean, and is a good wife and mother. 

she has tried her best to make amends for the damage her addiction has caused. 

her oldest still lives with her mother, (although she tried to have him with her, he just wasn't happy, and they had a hard time bonding, ) but she got herself in check in time to save her relationship with the younger one.

4 years after first meeting her farm boy, they have a baby:) and then they get married:) and are now expecting another child. 

do you judge her and begrudge her this child because of her past? (she has 6 years clean now)


Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 3, 2012 at 2:01 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 3, 2012 at 11:35 PM

it's ok foo, it's not as bad coming from you. why...i dont know

Quoting FooLynRoo:

And again Cor Im not jumping on any bandwagon.

This discussion has been between YOU and I.

I dont care who or what has something to say to you. 

I am speaking for myself to you.

I am not doing it because others are saying something. I am doing it because I took exception to what I read here. Nothing more, Nothing less.



spooky415
by Ruby Member on Oct. 3, 2012 at 11:37 PM
Are you really that stupid that you don't understand why people are nasty to you? Look at the shit you have posted in here. You really think people are going to just forget and be like "yay! lets plan on online baby shower for her!" you've made too many bad choices. people don't just forget that.

and if you didn't want so many people to know why the fuck would you make another post detailing more points in your shitty life?


Quoting Anonymous:

and i have always had your back in those posts, i have seen it and it's not cool how some people talk to you. i don't go jumping on the bandwagon.

and don't tell me you wouldn't be pissed off if you made a baby name post for the child you are expecting and women come in there and act like you shouldn't be happy because ...your house was a mess or something. it's bullshit. the same thing happened when i found out i was expecting tristan......i just wanted to talk baby names and be happy about this baby. i don't think that is too much to ask.

Quoting FooLynRoo:

So - that's the life you reap.

I can't post in any place without getting wifeswap thrown in my face, or my weight, or that i sell dildos.

Who cares, its who I am

Its who you are

Roll with it. be a grown up and deal.



Quoting Anonymous:

i have got my life together!!!!!! wtf?! the only reason i made this post is because women came into my baby name post making nasty remarks! i can't even discuss baby names without someone coming in and being a bitch!! 

Quoting spooky415:

No because you want to leave out anything too incriminating. You're trying to make yourself into a victim. You brought it all on yourself. Take some responsibility and try to get your life together rather than trying to milk the masses for attention.





Quoting Anonymous:

i was not the one who brought tammy into this post. 





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morrigan914
by Platinum Member on Oct. 3, 2012 at 11:41 PM
1 mom liked this
Jumping right in...Listen you fucking cuntwad, you are always doing "all you can" but that's bullshit. My mom left me at the ripe old age of 4 with a man that not only beat the shit out of me, he raped me every chance he got, which was a lot. I probably saw my mom 6 times in my life until I was about 24. And I still have a relationship with her, she still does everything she can to be a part of my life and I forgave her. She didn't say, "oh well, you're not a cute little baby anymore so I DGAF about you" Everything is always about YOU, so here's some yous for you. YOU create drama. YOU try to justify your bullshit excuse for a life so much YOU actually believe them. YOU throw innocents under the bus out of spite, malice and jealousy. YOU are a lair, fake and fraud and I'm sure your 14 y/o son sees right through your bullshit and you can't stand the reminder of your miserable life, so you tossed him aside like he was garbage. YOU are a waste of flesh, end if story.

Quoting Anonymous:

listen dumb ass. i have done all i can do, and i am STILL doing all i can do to repair and maintain my relationship with my son. i KNEW i was a bad mom and not yet ready for yet another child, which is why i gave my dd up for adoption, THAT IS taking responsability for my actions. 

and i just don;t understand what it is you think i should that i am not already doing?! my god.

you are insane! should i go take back the child i gave up? take my son back from the home he is happy in and force him to live with me and love me or what? you're nuts! i am honestly doing all i can do while maintaining a job, and taking care of my other children, who ALSO need me. 

jesus fucking christ. 


Quoting Aislin:

So your behavior and choices have not had any impact on your children? Your son is the very proof that isn't true. The daughter you gave up for adoption is even more proof. You need to take responsibility for all of that. 

You have stated over and over that you gave up on healing the bond that you broke with your son. It doesn't matter how old he is. You don't just give up on healing your relationship with your child ever. You go above and beyond for your kids. You move heaven and earth for them. You don't make excuses for why you can never have a bond. You do anything you have to so that your child can trust you again. You make the choice to live 2 hours from him so that isn't an excuse either. All these excuses are really just your choices. Take responsibility and stop trying to act like a victim. You are not. Your son is.


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hddcooper
by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 11:43 PM
Not at all.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 3, 2012 at 11:45 PM

you need to calm the fuck down and stop projecting your childhood on me. 

Quoting morrigan914:

Jumping right in...Listen you fucking cuntwad, you are always doing "all you can" but that's bullshit. My mom left me at the ripe old age of 4 with a man that not only beat the shit out of me, he raped me every chance he got, which was a lot. I probably saw my mom 6 times in my life until I was about 24. And I still have a relationship with her, she still does everything she can to be a part of my life and I forgave her. She didn't say, "oh well, you're not a cute little baby anymore so I DGAF about you" Everything is always about YOU, so here's some yous for you. YOU create drama. YOU try to justify your bullshit excuse for a life so much YOU actually believe them. YOU throw innocents under the bus out of spite, malice and jealousy. YOU are a lair, fake and fraud and I'm sure your 14 y/o son sees right through your bullshit and you can't stand the reminder of your miserable life, so you tossed him aside like he was garbage. YOU are a waste of flesh, end if story.

Quoting Anonymous:

listen dumb ass. i have done all i can do, and i am STILL doing all i can do to repair and maintain my relationship with my son. i KNEW i was a bad mom and not yet ready for yet another child, which is why i gave my dd up for adoption, THAT IS taking responsability for my actions. 

and i just don;t understand what it is you think i should that i am not already doing?! my god.

you are insane! should i go take back the child i gave up? take my son back from the home he is happy in and force him to live with me and love me or what? you're nuts! i am honestly doing all i can do while maintaining a job, and taking care of my other children, who ALSO need me. 

jesus fucking christ. 


Quoting Aislin:

So your behavior and choices have not had any impact on your children? Your son is the very proof that isn't true. The daughter you gave up for adoption is even more proof. You need to take responsibility for all of that. 

You have stated over and over that you gave up on healing the bond that you broke with your son. It doesn't matter how old he is. You don't just give up on healing your relationship with your child ever. You go above and beyond for your kids. You move heaven and earth for them. You don't make excuses for why you can never have a bond. You do anything you have to so that your child can trust you again. You make the choice to live 2 hours from him so that isn't an excuse either. All these excuses are really just your choices. Take responsibility and stop trying to act like a victim. You are not. Your son is.



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 3, 2012 at 11:46 PM
Hi Daughter of earth!
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 3, 2012 at 11:47 PM

**waves**

Quoting Anonymous:

Hi Daughter of earth!


NatesMyBoy
by Gold Member on Oct. 3, 2012 at 11:47 PM
Amen.

Quoting FooLynRoo:

Wish I could blame all my mistakes on addiction.

But it doesn't stop people from calling me a fat pig.

Apparently do meth you're a saint

eat a few extra taco's and you deserve nothing but contempt.


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morrigan914
by Platinum Member on Oct. 3, 2012 at 11:49 PM
Sorry, if hearing the truth bothers you. You abandoned your son once and you are still doing it. Personally, I think you're doing him a favor, the farther away from you he gets, the better off he'll be.

Quoting Anonymous:

you need to calm the fuck down and stop projecting your childhood on me. 

Quoting morrigan914:

Jumping right in...Listen you fucking cuntwad, you are always doing "all you can" but that's bullshit. My mom left me at the ripe old age of 4 with a man that not only beat the shit out of me, he raped me every chance he got, which was a lot. I probably saw my mom 6 times in my life until I was about 24. And I still have a relationship with her, she still does everything she can to be a part of my life and I forgave her. She didn't say, "oh well, you're not a cute little baby anymore so I DGAF about you" Everything is always about YOU, so here's some yous for you. YOU create drama. YOU try to justify your bullshit excuse for a life so much YOU actually believe them. YOU throw innocents under the bus out of spite, malice and jealousy. YOU are a lair, fake and fraud and I'm sure your 14 y/o son sees right through your bullshit and you can't stand the reminder of your miserable life, so you tossed him aside like he was garbage. YOU are a waste of flesh, end if story.



Quoting Anonymous:

listen dumb ass. i have done all i can do, and i am STILL doing all i can do to repair and maintain my relationship with my son. i KNEW i was a bad mom and not yet ready for yet another child, which is why i gave my dd up for adoption, THAT IS taking responsability for my actions. 

and i just don;t understand what it is you think i should that i am not already doing?! my god.

you are insane! should i go take back the child i gave up? take my son back from the home he is happy in and force him to live with me and love me or what? you're nuts! i am honestly doing all i can do while maintaining a job, and taking care of my other children, who ALSO need me. 

jesus fucking christ. 


Quoting Aislin:

So your behavior and choices have not had any impact on your children? Your son is the very proof that isn't true. The daughter you gave up for adoption is even more proof. You need to take responsibility for all of that. 

You have stated over and over that you gave up on healing the bond that you broke with your son. It doesn't matter how old he is. You don't just give up on healing your relationship with your child ever. You go above and beyond for your kids. You move heaven and earth for them. You don't make excuses for why you can never have a bond. You do anything you have to so that your child can trust you again. You make the choice to live 2 hours from him so that isn't an excuse either. All these excuses are really just your choices. Take responsibility and stop trying to act like a victim. You are not. Your son is.



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braezmommy89
by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 11:49 PM
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