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Seriously what do parents teach their kids these days

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I was in Walmart with ds earlier tonight to grab a few things. Ds was crying and just being... Not him self. I figured he'd had a long day at school and was tired. ( I have to wake him up at 6 to get the bus at 6:45 schools starts at 7:20 idk but the little ones start school over an hour earlier than the older kids who don't go to school like 8:40. Makes no sense. Lil ones need more sleep) anyway ds is crying I'm trying get him home as fast as possible. I see these two teenage boys. Probably around 15. I had seen them several times in the store and each time they would pass I'd hear them whispering to each other. Whatever I ignor and got to check out and here are these two boys again standing there behind a battery display pointing at ds who is 5 and very loudly making fun of him crying!! Saying things like ugh whaaaa look at the baby cry. I whip around cause this is bullshit ds is 5 years old these kids are like 15 maybe a little older They see me and shut up immediately . I ask them what the hell their problem is and if they think they cool for making fun of a 5 year old little boy. They take off running. The cashier said she would call a manager cause those boys are always in there and they do the same thing. They hide behind one of the displays and make fun of kids!! Wtf. Where are the parents and what have they taught them?? I'm sorry it's not normal to wander a store to look for small children to make fun of. I wanted to slap the hell out of them.

And no their parents may not know what their doing and they may not have raised this way but in today's world you never know.
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 5, 2012 at 2:57 AM
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lalaboosh
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 3:14 AM

Yeah, I was never an asshole either. I don't think it's universal, I just think it's an easy trap for many teens to fall into. I do think parenting has taken a real hit for a lot of reasons, TV and lack of personal freedom being one of them. Parents are either afraid to make the wrong choice and screw their kids up (or lose them to the state) or too busy with their lives and their wants and their issues to pay attention to when their kids need them. Or both, and I can't imagine how confusing that would be, to feel that as a parent and be so self absorbed.

Quoting Anonymous:

True teens are just assholes but I never did any of this crap and neither did my friends. Male or female. I thinks it's a combo of teen hormones and the fact that parents these days don't really punish their kids. They get away with murder. I've seen it all to often. I saw a teenager threaten his mother the other day because she refused to buy him chips!?? And she gave in. I would have been dropped on my ass real fast if I threatened my mother. Maybe it's just in my area idk but teens these days they run the house and tell the parents what their gonna do. And the parents just let them


Quoting lalaboosh:

I don't think it's that their parents don't teach them shit, I think it's that teenagers are assholes. I dunno. I was walking past a group of teen boys the other day and they started whistling and cat calling me and I ignored them. Then they started shouting insults and insisting that I wanted it and calling me baby. It's often a combination of male bravado and teen hormones that cause the problem, but girls get obnoxious too.



Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 5, 2012 at 3:15 AM
That's what I'm saying. It's not normal to wander a store and look for kids to pick on. At 15 my male friends where to busy suing video games, looking for girls and studying for drivers Ed to wander a store and make fun of little kids.


Quoting Anonymous:

Really? 15 making fun of little kids they might be a little slow themselves . Must 15 are chasing girls or playing video games. That dont sound normal.

BelleVernonGirl
by Gold Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 3:15 AM

You ask what are parents teaching their kids?  You come on here and see how adults act and you want to know why kids act the way they do?  No surprise to me at all....People are assholes now a days...

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 5, 2012 at 3:19 AM
Parents these days( god I sound so old saying these days lol I'm only 25 lol) they are more worried about being their children's friend. Your a parent your not suppose to be their friend. My kid will never get away with this crap. I get told all the time I'm to strict. That may be but my child is not going end up like the rest of the kids. He will be a respectful kind person when he grows up.


Quoting lalaboosh:

Yeah, I was never an asshole either. I don't think it's universal, I just think it's an easy trap for many teens to fall into. I do think parenting has taken a real hit for a lot of reasons, TV and lack of personal freedom being one of them. Parents are either afraid to make the wrong choice and screw their kids up (or lose them to the state) or too busy with their lives and their wants and their issues to pay attention to when their kids need them. Or both, and I can't imagine how confusing that would be, to feel that as a parent and be so self absorbed.


Quoting Anonymous:

True teens are just assholes but I never did any of this crap and neither did my friends. Male or female. I thinks it's a combo of teen hormones and the fact that parents these days don't really punish their kids. They get away with murder. I've seen it all to often. I saw a teenager threaten his mother the other day because she refused to buy him chips!?? And she gave in. I would have been dropped on my ass real fast if I threatened my mother. Maybe it's just in my area idk but teens these days they run the house and tell the parents what their gonna do. And the parents just let them





Quoting lalaboosh:

I don't think it's that their parents don't teach them shit, I think it's that teenagers are assholes. I dunno. I was walking past a group of teen boys the other day and they started whistling and cat calling me and I ignored them. Then they started shouting insults and insisting that I wanted it and calling me baby. It's often a combination of male bravado and teen hormones that cause the problem, but girls get obnoxious too.





Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 5, 2012 at 3:20 AM
True .... Sad.... But your 100% right. It shouldn't surprise me at all.


Quoting BelleVernonGirl:

You ask what are parents teaching their kids?  You come on here and see how adults act and you want to know why kids act the way they do?  No surprise to me at all....People are assholes now a days...


lalaboosh
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 3:21 AM

Yeah, I forgot about that parenting issue. I probably won't be a strict parent and may be one that is mistaken for the friend type, but I totally agree that children need to be taught boundaries and respect, how else do we expect them to function in the real world? It's full of boundaries that need to be observed and people that need to be respected.

Quoting Anonymous:

Parents these days( god I sound so old saying these days lol I'm only 25 lol) they are more worried about being their children's friend. Your a parent your not suppose to be their friend. My kid will never get away with this crap. I get told all the time I'm to strict. That may be but my child is not going end up like the rest of the kids. He will be a respectful kind person when he grows up.


Quoting lalaboosh:

Yeah, I was never an asshole either. I don't think it's universal, I just think it's an easy trap for many teens to fall into. I do think parenting has taken a real hit for a lot of reasons, TV and lack of personal freedom being one of them. Parents are either afraid to make the wrong choice and screw their kids up (or lose them to the state) or too busy with their lives and their wants and their issues to pay attention to when their kids need them. Or both, and I can't imagine how confusing that would be, to feel that as a parent and be so self absorbed.


Quoting Anonymous:

True teens are just assholes but I never did any of this crap and neither did my friends. Male or female. I thinks it's a combo of teen hormones and the fact that parents these days don't really punish their kids. They get away with murder. I've seen it all to often. I saw a teenager threaten his mother the other day because she refused to buy him chips!?? And she gave in. I would have been dropped on my ass real fast if I threatened my mother. Maybe it's just in my area idk but teens these days they run the house and tell the parents what their gonna do. And the parents just let them





Quoting lalaboosh:

I don't think it's that their parents don't teach them shit, I think it's that teenagers are assholes. I dunno. I was walking past a group of teen boys the other day and they started whistling and cat calling me and I ignored them. Then they started shouting insults and insisting that I wanted it and calling me baby. It's often a combination of male bravado and teen hormones that cause the problem, but girls get obnoxious too.






Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 5, 2012 at 3:28 AM
I know what you mean. I rarely take ds to the park cause the others are saying f this and f that. Every other word is bad word. Last week I yelled at some kids from down the street. I was inside folding some clothes and ds was playing in the yard and all I hear is " f you you f ing b you can suck my c***" WHAT??? I flew out that door and told them if they wanna talk that like they can do it in their own house not in front of my yard where my son is playing. I was mortified. I was more mortified to turn to see who he was screaming.... His mother!! I would have been punched in the face if I said something even remotely close to that to my parents. She just walked inside like it was no big deal. I swear there must be something in the water down here for the teens to act this way and its not just
Teens. I've seen kids that are 8,9,10 ish years old cussing out their parents and they just let it happen.

Quoting Anonymous:

Jeez who really cares if you misspelled some words

its not.the.end of the.world here

I don't know what some parents are teaching their little one

My DD learned the B word and.that's all she wants to say now

Jeez people need to stop cursing in front of their children

I'm.not.taking my DD to.the park.anymore

She picks up too many bad habits over there


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acrogodess
by Ruby Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 3:29 AM

Nothing at all from what I've noticed the past year working with children and we aren't even allowed to put them in time out. We have to "re-direct" them to another activity so they can be disrespectful elsewhere... *sighs*


Most seem to expect school to teach them everything, from reading to writing, math and good behavior.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 5, 2012 at 3:35 AM
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The funny thing is I don't think I'm that strict. My son has rules that he must follow an he knows his boundries and sometimes he pushes them. Their kids that's what they do. But I refuse to let my child be disrespectful to others adults or children. And if my kid is throwing a fit I'm sure as hell not going buy him a toy or candy and for that I'm told I'm strict. I don't think it's that strict.


Quoting lalaboosh:

Yeah, I forgot about that parenting issue. I probably won't be a strict parent and may be one that is mistaken for the friend type, but I totally agree that children need to be taught boundaries and respect, how else do we expect them to function in the real world? It's full of boundaries that need to be observed and people that need to be respected.


Quoting Anonymous:

Parents these days( god I sound so old saying these days lol I'm only 25 lol) they are more worried about being their children's friend. Your a parent your not suppose to be their friend. My kid will never get away with this crap. I get told all the time I'm to strict. That may be but my child is not going end up like the rest of the kids. He will be a respectful kind person when he grows up.





Quoting lalaboosh:

Yeah, I was never an asshole either. I don't think it's universal, I just think it's an easy trap for many teens to fall into. I do think parenting has taken a real hit for a lot of reasons, TV and lack of personal freedom being one of them. Parents are either afraid to make the wrong choice and screw their kids up (or lose them to the state) or too busy with their lives and their wants and their issues to pay attention to when their kids need them. Or both, and I can't imagine how confusing that would be, to feel that as a parent and be so self absorbed.



Quoting Anonymous:

True teens are just assholes but I never did any of this crap and neither did my friends. Male or female. I thinks it's a combo of teen hormones and the fact that parents these days don't really punish their kids. They get away with murder. I've seen it all to often. I saw a teenager threaten his mother the other day because she refused to buy him chips!?? And she gave in. I would have been dropped on my ass real fast if I threatened my mother. Maybe it's just in my area idk but teens these days they run the house and tell the parents what their gonna do. And the parents just let them








Quoting lalaboosh:

I don't think it's that their parents don't teach them shit, I think it's that teenagers are assholes. I dunno. I was walking past a group of teen boys the other day and they started whistling and cat calling me and I ignored them. Then they started shouting insults and insisting that I wanted it and calling me baby. It's often a combination of male bravado and teen hormones that cause the problem, but girls get obnoxious too.









turtle68
by Silver Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 3:37 AM

 I'd be more worried about the fact that these kids are stalking little ones....brings me to that little kid that was kidnapped, tortured and murdered by two preteens.

I'd probably be a dick and look at them and go ...."at least my 5yo will grow up with manners...you cant change ugly" pull a face and continue on.

My parents taught me to respect until disrespected....and it has no age barrier (exception being little kids..they cant control themselves)

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